Saturday, May 24, 2014

HOW NOT TO GET YOUR FEELINGS HURT ~ HELP IN TIMES OF TRAGEDY AND CRISIS

~  HOW NOT TO GET YOUR FEELINGS HURT ~ 


We are here for one purpose: to love each other. But we can't give away what we haven't got inside. We have to first learn to love ourselves, and then transfer that love to others. We are here to learn to love the "other" -- the person that looks different from us, or is against us — or who may not give us what we want.

We really have no enemies. Our enemies are in our head.

"Withdraw your attention from your enemies (your worries and fears) and they expire from neglect." ~ Emmet Fox

There is nothing that can defeat you if you take a step back before reacting and ask for help. Ask for a moment of guidance "What would love do? How can I feel better about this situation? How can I broaden and expand my heart.

Love is all there is. Love creates life.

I was upset today by something someone did to offend me. But I took my power back and decided not to be offended. I made a choice to take contrary action: to send them love instead of instantly sending off a hurt email or being insulted.

Whenever my ego is hurt — and I feel that hot flush over my face or that burning, churning inside my stomach -- I know this is not love or my higher self speaking.  Whenever I am tempted to give someone a piece of my mind or defend myself or react to something someone said in order to get back at them — I am not accessing my highest self.  Instead, I am trolling in the gutter: loitering in the lower, primitive, mortal realms.

I want to be free from the immature, tit-for-tat reactiveness. The powerful spiritual divine voice inside me is never too opinionated, hot-headed or offended.

In other words, whenever we, as humans, are overly defensive or whenever we cling to diehard, intransigent opinions, we are not full of grace or love. We are allowing our stubborn pride or human will to override the softer qualities that promote goodwill and creative collaboration -- the qualities that help you win friends and get along with people.

Whenever I have a strong opinion it is not from the good part of me. Whenever I open my heart and stop to listen, I become humble enough to let others in. Then I actually get everything I want -- which is love and acceptance and "community" anyway.

Isn't that what we're supposed to do: turn the other cheek?  It is if we follow a spiritual program or if we read the Bible correctly.

I actually called a friend to ask his advice: "Should I be angry and upset? Is it okay if I don't react and don't feel like a victim for a change? Do I have to bring it up and let them know my feelings were hurt?" (Because, you see, I really wanted peace. I really didn't want the drama. I have a writing deadline and I don't need to engage in this icky, wacko human behavior in which I leave mushy, victim-like cryptic messages for the people who hurt my feelings -- and then have to deal with apologizing or being paranoid and having to feel guilty and ashamed for being so petty.

Anyway, I honestly don't think my friends set out to deliberately hurt me. It may be just an oversight. And even if they did, I chose to create my own reality. I want to see the best in them and maybe this time I can sculpt my own reality. This time I'm going to put my money where my mouth is: see it when I believe it, not believe it when I see it.

TRUST - it is better to trust people and give them the benefit of the doubt. Don't be suspicious and confrontational. When you've been hurt, expand and open your heart even further. I know some people withdraw and go within, and become smaller and smaller. They shut out the world and the light so they can't get hurt again. But this is not the way to grow. You die that way. You have to do the opposite.

EXPAND your world. Radiate love to your enemies.

I make excuses for my procrastination. Last night I came up with this one: that the reason I wrote a blog about "The Long Road" and the idea of Collaboration -- which was totally off track and not part of the actual writing I am supposed to be doing which is on urgent deadline -- but my excuse was that writing from the heart gave me access to deeper ideas and it opened me up in a way I haven't been opened lately. I have not been writing everyday and I've become rusty and lazy.




Friday, May 23, 2014

HELP OUR WOUNDED VETS GET BACK LIVES

For our WOUNDED MILITARY who need your help. Can you donate $10? Please click here and there will be matching funds for every dollar raised.

http://givetolincoln.razoo.com/story/Team-Big-Red-Challenge

ALSO check out my new Public Speaking Agent:

http://www.castingnewlives.com/our_clients/lydia-cornell/

Lydia Cornell has been Invited to contribute her writings to The International Museum of Peace, which houses letters from Nobel Peace Prize Laureate Mother Teresa, Maya Angelou & Sir Edmund Hillary

ABOUT LYDIA CORNELL

Turning tragedy into comedy: known for her knife-sharp humor on HBO, in social media, comedy concerts, public speaking and on morning-drive radio, Cornell has been called: “A fresh voice; one of the most original voices in America today. Deeply funny and transformative, she has been called the “female George Carlin” – only younger. And prettier.C. Pearlman, Chicago Sun Times syndicate

With 34 million viewers Tuesday nights on ABC primetime, and millions of fans in worldwide syndication, AFI Best Actress nominee and People’s Choice Award winner Lydia Cornell grew up in America’s living rooms as one of of TV’s most popular sex symbols. Best known for her starring role as the daughter of TV legend Ted Knight  (The Mary Tyler Moore Show, Caddyshack) on the hit ABC series Too Close for Comfort, she is an international celebrity with a fiercely loyal fan following whom she interacts with daily on social media.  Starring in over 250 TV shows & films in 27 countries, she was recently on HBO’s Curb Your Enthusiasm; is costarring with Robert Downey, Jr., Steven Tyler, Jon Bon Jovi and Gary Oldman in indie films at Sundance; Variety’s Power of Comedy with Rebel Wilson and Russell Brand and The Kelsey Grammer Comedy HourHer fan base exploded last fall when she shot onto Google’s Top Trends and Yahoo! Finance News’ Most Viewed News Stories right behind William Buffet.Yahoo! Finance News: Lydia Cornell interviews World Leaders, Pulitzer Prize Winners, White House and Presidential Candidates for new morning drive AM radio show
Cornell is now a talk-show host; comedienne; teen mentor on suicide prevention; women and children’s advocate, mother, writer, recovery expert and inspirational public speaker. As co-owner of a radio network with Hell’s Kitchen chefs, MTV stars and Sports Radio personalities, she hosts an award-winning radio podcast on Beats and Eats — which was nominated for a Stitcher award. She is currently working on a series of humor and spiritual recovery books, which will be out in 2014. She is producing several shows for Discovery and History Channels as well as her own comedy TV series. She wrote and directed the indie short Venus Conspiracy, which will soon be a feature film. Her articles have appeared in Huffington Post; Herald de Paris; A&E Biography, Editor & Publisher, Macon Daily, People, Us, Yahoo, New York Post, Script Frenzy and Lone Star Icon. Too Close for Comfort airs daily on Tribune Broadcasting’s new comedy channel Antenna TV. Cornell disappeared from Hollywood to get sober, raise children, write books, and find her soul in a pornographic world.
Triumph over Tragedy
A children’s advocate, Cornell raised a child with brittle bone disease is an inspirational speaker on domestic violence, and teen suicide prevention — as well as on drug, alcohol and Adderall abuse. She endured a shattering personal tragedy when she found her younger brother’s body after a drug overdose. Sober now for 19 years, she speaks to recovery groups of 200 or more. She spoke at Texas A&M for Domestic Violence Prevention’s 30th anniversary luncheon. Her talks are laced with poignant stories of transformation with an innate sense of humor and comic timing. Cornell speaks at charity fundraisers, hospitals, high schools, colleges and women’s centers on overcoming loss, grief, unemployment, sexism, ageism, depression, self-sabotage, suicide, raising aliens (teenagers) and every imaginable hardship. Her triumph over addiction was the result of a ‘catastrophic spiritual awakening.’ “There is a reason so many celebrities are in rehab these days,” she says. Her experiences in overcoming a string of failures and humiliations inspired her to assist others with their own demons. “My ego was so big, it had an apartment of its own with a walk-in closet.
Lydia has been invited to speak in Florida on Osteogenesis Imperfecta or brittle bone disease. A mother of boys, she raised a stepson whose bones broke every time he stumbled. “Raising a child with britlle bone disease has been one of the most precious gifts of my life.” she says of her stepson.

 PUBLIC SERVICE AND ONGOING CHARITY WORK

In April 2014, Lydia is going to Lincoln, Nebraska to support the troops for the Big Red Challenge.  She will be in Santa Barbara for a celebrity golf tournament on April 9 & 10 to benefit “Santa Ynez Valley People Helping People.”  She has worked with the Red Cross, Firefighters, Autism Awareness, and High Hopes Ryan’s Reach — Pat Boone’s charity for traumatic spinal cord injury. She hosted a documentary for Safe Passage Home, an organization that gives extreme life makeovers to victims of domestic violence, for Oxygen network. She housed domestic abuse victims and cared for their children throughout the school year. With the help of the police, Cornell helped rescue a battered woman from a predator.
As a teen mentor, Lydia works with L.A. Team Mentoring (after school programs for underprivileged kids) and is developing a site for troubled teens called “The Answer Room.”
Lydia raised boys — and their girlfriends, who still confide in her about the most horrifying things. “I had three boys and two dogs, including my husband, and they were all going through puberty at the same time. Then my husband left me for Gene Simmons (he went on the road with the rock band KISS!)  But only the good remains in a broken marriage.”

 BUZZ

Currently in talks with Dancing with the Stars,
  • Recently on HBO’s Curb Your Enthusiasm; costarring with Robert Downey, Jr., Steven Tyler, Jon Bon Jovi and Gary Oldman in indies at Sundance; Kelsey Grammer Comedy HourHost of Variety’s Power of Comedy with Rebel Wilson, Russell Brand, Helen Mirren, Melissa Etheridge, Aziz Ansari, Lake Bell, Dylan McDermott, Patton Oswalt and Sarah Silverman; co-stars in director Jordan Alan’s Cats Dancing on Jupiter with star of The Mentalist.
  • With 34 million viewers Tuesday nights on ABC primetime, and millions of fans in worldwide and first-run syndication, her fan base exploded last fall when she shot onto Google’s Top Trendsand Yahoo! Finance News’ Most Viewed News Stories right behind William BuffetYahoo! Finance News: Lydia Cornell interviews World Leaders, Pulitzer Prize Winners, White House and Presidential Candidates for new morning drive AM radio show
  • Too Close for Comfort is back daily on Tribune Broadcasting’s comedy channel Antenna TV, on WGN and in top markets nationwide. The show has been in worldwide syndication for over 25 years.
  • She has her own hit radio show and is co-owner of a network Beats and Eats on itunes with Hell’s Kitchen chefs, Sports Radio and MTV stars, and was nominated for a Stitcher Award.
  • A transformational comedienne, Cornell has been called the “female George Carlin” — but prettier and younger J
  • She is currently working on a series of humor and spiritual recovery books, which will be out in 2014. Cornell is now a mother, teen mentor, comedy writer, author, women and children’s advocate, talk show host, award-winning blogger, Cornell is in development on a new TV series and feature film.
  • Despite rumors on TMZ and in the tabloids, Cornell did not sue Kelsey Grammer. Cornell is currently helping the FBI alongside Kelsey Grammer in a major criminal investigation. This will be revealed in an upcoming expose.
  • Lydia Cornell’s blog is a triple Koufax nominee for best writing, recipient of the Thinking Blogger Award and winner of the Freedom Award and three World Report Awardsis “a consistently thought-provoking firecracker of pointed socio-political commentary and observant, caustic wit.” (Yahoo News; Shotgun Reviews.)
  • Has been invited to contribute her writings to The International Museum of Peace, which houses letters from Nobel Peace Prize Laureate Mother Teresa, Maya Angelou & Sir Edmund Hillary.
  • Received the USO Distinguished Service Award for Middle East and Beirut war zone trip to visit the troops.
  • Venus Conspiracy – written and directed by Lydia Cornell, costarring Deborah Van Valkenburgh, who played her sister on Too Close for Comfort
  • Pain is Inevitable, Sex Optional – on stage in her original three-woman show
  • Political Voices of Women Best Writing Awards ~ World Report Award, Thinking Blogger Award; Weblog Award and Double Koufax Nominee.
  • Standup: Improv, Laugh Factory, Las Vegas at the Riviera, Sahara; opening for Paul Rodriguez at Pechanga 1500 seat theater
  • Cornell has written over 350 articles on politics, women’s issues, pop culture, spirituality, religion, sex, divorce. Has written an international thriller on the Trotsky assassination
  • Known for her knife-sharp humor on HBO, in standup comedy concerts, and on morning-drive radio, Cornell has been called: “A fresh voice; one of the most original voices in America today. The “female George Carlin” – only prettier, and sexier. And younger.” 
  • Credits: Guest starred in Quantum Leap, Full House A-Team, Knight Rider, Dukes of Hazzard, Full House, Quantum Leap; Hunter; Simon & Simon; Love Boat  Fantasy Island; Hotel ; Hardball; The Red Tide with Oscar winners James Earl Jones and Jose Ferrer and Lila Kedrova.
  • Teen Mentor – Mentors teens; Hosts “The Answer Room” for troubled youth. Volunteers with sons for Red Cross, Imagine L.A., homeless children, and houses a domestic abuse survivor.
  • Raised sons, including a special-needs child with Osteogenesis Imperfecta (brittle bone disease)
  • Public speaker on Domestic Violence; hosting Oxygen Network Safe Passage documentary on battered women.
  • TMZ: Lydia Cornell was profiled in several new and recent articles.
  •  Too Close for Comfort has been in worldwide syndication for over 25 years and recently began airing again on WGN and in top markets nationwide.
  • Celebrity profile on TMZ. “In the ’80s, Lydia Cornell became famous as Ted Knight’s blonde daughter on the TV series Too Close for Comfort. Guess what she looks like now? “Fergie from Black Eyed Peas!”
  • Had a feud with Ann Coulter; Interviewed Elizabeth and John Edwards.
  • Lydia interviewed Pulitzer Prize Winners, White House advisers, presidential candidates, Senators, Congressmen and women, and bestselling authors for her award-winning radio show
  • Founder of Comedy Dance Film Festival co-sponsored by Saturday Night Live alum Jon Lovitz, in conjunction with CityWalk Universal in 2011 (*TBA)
  • Her classic TV credits include: Full House, Knight Rider, A-Team, Dukes of Hazzard, Hunter, Quantum Leap, Love Boat Hotel ; T.J.Hooker, Simon & Simon, Charlie’s Angels; Hardball; The Red Tide with Oscar winners James Earl Jones and Jose Ferrer and Lila Kedrova.
“Lydia Cornell is an award-winning actress, writer, comedienne, and talk-radio host best known for her role as “Sara Rush” – Ted Knight’s dazzlingly beautiful yet stereotypically dumb blonde daughter on ABC’s ‘hit sitcom, “Too Close for Comfort.” Lydia starred in over 250 TV shows & films including Curb Your Enthusiasm, Full House, Dukes of Hazzard, Knight Rider, A-Team, Hunter, Hardball, Hotel , Love Boat , Fantasy Island, T.J. Hooker and the pilot of the cult series Quantum Leap with Scott Bakula and Dean Stockwell. She signed hundreds of autographs at their convention earlier this year in Los Angeles. She co-starred with three Oscar winners James Earl Jones, Jose Ferrer and Lila Kedrova in The Red Tide, shot in the Greek Isles. 

MISCELLANEOUS:

 John Conley, a disabled Marine combat vet, sent her his Purple Heart for her courage in standing up to Ann Coulter’s ‘extermination speak’ in her article “Death is Sexier than Sex.”
Cornell is a Synesthete and has Synesthesia, artists, musicians and writers (including V. Nabokov, John Mayer and David Hockney) who see colors when hearing sounds, and see numbers and letters in color. The World Symposium on Synesthesia convened in Belgium last year.
She started experiencing 11:11 in 1994, when she got sober, and had a “catastrophic spiritual awakening and transformation.
Lydia stars in indie film “Damage Done; Happy Holidaze from the Joneses”  www.LydiaCornell.com




DID THIS EPISODE REALLY HAPPEN? HILARIOUS COMEDY WITH COSTAR JIM BULLOCK "TOO CLOSE FOR COMFORT"


"Someone once asked Somerset Maugham if he wrote on a schedule or only when struck by inspiration. "I write only when inspiration strikes," he replied. "Fortunately it strikes every morning at nine o’clock sharp.""
~ Steven Pressfield

THIS IS PRETTY FUNNY: GOOFING AROUND WITH MY COMEDY COSTAR JIM BULLOCK 

GROWING UP GAY IN AMERICA… my deeply personal interview with my Too Close for Comfort costar Jim Bullock "Monroe" Jim J. Bullock joins @LydiaCornell on the @BeatnEats #Podcast Network! download our #FREEAPP:http://t.co/yuiSux1YqM http://t.co/hDD5ei7VYd




Our SHATTERING, exclusive interview on Beats and Eats on itunes, Stitcher and all over the web!!


Here is my channel on the Stitcher nominated Beats and Eats Station:

http://beatsandeats.net/2014/05/14/lydia-cornell-show-5-jim-j-bullock-reunion-growing-gay-america-1980s-hollywood-close-comfort/



TOO CLOSE FOR COMFORT: Our Most Bizarre Episode that was BANNED:

I wasn't sure until I saw it on Youtube. But the actual episode has been banned.

#2. Too Close for Comfort: Monroe Gets Kidnapped and Sexually Tortured

Too Close for Comfort was a show about a cartoonist named Henry Rush and his wife, Muriel. They had two adult daughters who lived with them, along with a moronic tenant named Monroe. This setting, which would seem to encourage at least a small amount of sexual tension, instead insisted on concentrating on a bunch of wacky personalities just trying to get along.
But the dynamic takes a dark turn in the episode "For Every Man, There's Two Women." Monroe does not come home one night from his job as a mall security guard. He finally returns in the morning with his uniform partially torn off, looking shell-shocked.
"I've just come out of the writers' room."
While it takes him awhile to calm down and explain what happened, he reveals that he had been kidnapped from a parking lot and forced into a van by two women. He was then taken to an apartment and raped throughout the night. He tells it all to his quasi-family, clearly shaken by the experience, and the studio audience laughs along.

Thursday, May 22, 2014

HOW TO AGE BACKWARDS

How to Age Backwards: 

1. Never think about age

2. Stop looking in the mirror.

3. Every morning when you wake up, immediately think of something to be grateful for. Add a new item everyday to the list. Write down 5 things to be grateful for on your fist day. 

4. Go on The Seven Day Mental Diet (Emmett Fox) - do not think a negative thought for seven days. See if you can do it. 

My friend Kristin Macdonald lost her eyesight and had limited vision, so she created an inner vision: a second vision radio show to find the lost dream inside her. This amazing woman transformed her life. CHECK out her site here: SECOND VISION http://secondvision.net

And I was lucky enough to be on her show on AIRS LA. Here is a link to my guest appearance on her show:  http://www.airsla.org/broadcasts/lowdown110218.mp3


AGING BACKWARDS

So I'm up for a couple of TV roles, and they want to know "what I look like today."  I have not had any plastic surgery or injections. I am so grateful that I was unable to afford expensive injections or plastic surgery the past few years -- because I avoided RUINING MY FACE!  My heart goes out to every woman who has succumbed to the terror of "anti-aging" remedies. 

This video was shot 3/14/2014
This is an ANTI-PORN comedy rant, that actually has an uplifting ending. It was filmed on March 14, 2014 and is to show "how a woman in Hollywood can still survive without plastic surgery" lol for casting directors, etc.
Through the grapevine I heard that "on reality TV they will not allow any woman on the air who is unattractive."  This made me wonder about Anthony Bourdin of 'PARTS UNKNOWN' on CNN.

I wonder if they would allow a woman to replace him on the Travel Channel, a woman with gray hair and wrinkles — like he has. Look at HIS face: it's wrinkled, graying and gnarly, but since he's a guy he gets to age normally and gracefully and ENJOY LIFE. 

We, as women, are not so lucky. 




Yes, he's handsome (for a man.) But can you imagine if a woman was allowed to have crows' feet, wrinkles and gray hair and do a show and JUST BE HERSELF? 

FYI: the rest of my RANT goes like this: 

"I was mistaken for  a hooker by my mother and the police on my way to an audition. Maybe it was the leash and dog collar I was wearing at 8
o'clock in the morning. 

I'm not spiritual enough to stop dressing like a hooker because you can't get a job in Hollywood without lap dancer on your resume -- and I'm referring to the writers, not the actors. 

That's why I'm in withdrawal from cleavage ..