Wednesday, January 27, 2010


FINALLY OBAMA is right. He is the moral conscience of our country. Thank God he brought up the sickening game of politics and the horrifying Supreme Court reversal of a 100-year-old decision, which will now allow lobbyists from the wealthiest corporations, foreign agents, terrorists or anyone with money to buy politicians. This kind of corruption cannot be legalized. 

Thank God he said GAYS must be allowed in the militiary - a civil rights issue, and EQUAL PAY FOR EQUAL WORK for WOMEN!!

It is a shame that the greatest nation on earth is at a standstill — unable to move forward and create new wealth, jobs, green industries — while China, India and Germany rush forward into the new millennium without a Republican obstructionist party spewing lies and fear, a party that cares more about getting re-elected than it does about the American people, enabled by a timid bunch of Dems, who are equally afraid of the bullies.

Thank God we have a president who gets it — an intelligent, moral, reasonable and compassionate man who is humble enough to see his own faults clearly. At first I thought he had been threatened by the Powers-that-Be. I almost believed the conspiracy theorists who believed Obama had been threatened with assassination by a triumvirate consisting of the military industrial complex, the banking empirate and the pharmaceutical mafia.  Rumor has it according to Norman Solomon -  that the Military industrial complex was responsbile for the assassinations of Martin Luther King, Jr., JFK and Bobby.  

But his State of the Union speech gave me hope that Obama is finally seeing that he can't negotiate with Republicans. A man is worth nothing if he doesn't stand for what's right. Bullies can't win and might does not make right. 


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Tuesday, January 26, 2010


Anonymous left a comment saying that all was well with my marriage, and at home. Anonymous: I thank you for reminding me of the Law of Life. That good is the only reality. You must be a metaphysician (which is the way of Christ) -- seeing reality as the opposite of the limited, negative mortal view.

You are correct and this is how I should be seeing my formerly "gloomy" situation — for I am a student of metaphysics. There are no problems, only challenges that show me what needs to be healed. I am seeing the opposite of love in our arguments, and these are all fear-based concerns. Fear of death, loss, abandonment... fear of being out of control, of not having enough, of losing what we have, of not getting what we want. All this fear makes us live in the future or the past, but never in the present reality — where everything is fine. Now, this actual very moment is all there really is. There is no guarantee we'll be here tomorrow.  The Haitian earthquake, and that car accident proved to me that life can be over in an instant.  My precious brother's death showed me how fragile and temporal life is.  And all that remains are the good memories. Only love and goodness are real.

There is lovely teacher/angel sleeping on our couch and my teenagers do use the "F" word. But they are using it less and less, the higher I hold them up.

Sunday, January 24, 2010


 The past few months have been the hardest — harder than getting sober 15 years ago. My family seems to be disconnected, and I have been unable to communicate with the people I live with, or anyone around me (only those in recovery, who seem to be on a deeper level.) Everyone else thinks I'm attacking them when I simply ask a question or speak to them. I feel I'm from another planet. It is so hard having to take care of everyone's moods and moodswings.  Can't live this way anymore.

"Put down the microscope and pick up the mirror," is one of the best sayings in Alanon. "Detach with love and SHUT YOUR MOUTH," are other ones. In recovery/12-step programs we learn to detach with love from other people's abuse, garbage and accusations. We learn to stop controlling others and stop nagging, whining, worrying, begging and complaining.  Each person has his/her own higher power. The only thing we can control is our own attitude.  I don't have to respond the same old way. I don't have to react to the crazy things they say, or engage in tit-for-tat arguments.  "Say it once, be agreeable and walk away."  If someone doesn't get me, or see that I have good intentions, no matter how garbled, or messy it comes out... or if they are abusive to me, I can quietly leave the room.

The most important thing is to be grounded and strong for the children living in this house. I need to not panic or be frantic when no one is doing homework, or when teenagers are shouting the "F" word at me. Teenagers are not nice people, but I can choose to leave the room and not tolerate assholishness.

Today on the I-10, a car in the very next lane in on-coming traffic flipped over two times and it's hood flew off onto our lane. It seemed to rise up and fly over the top of our car, with metal debris flying all over the place.  It was like watching a movie. I looked back and was astonished that the car didn't hit anyone else. My husband was shell-shocked; he was sure the driver and passengers had been killed.

We are working with Trish Steele and — the organization that saves abused women's live and gives them extreme life makeovers.

God Bless everyone. Hang in there and FOCUS ON THE GOOD. When I turn my thoughts to love and good, the right actions become apparent. The main idea is to get selfishness out of the way and just ask "How can I be of love and service to those around me?" Charity begins at home.

Sunday, January 17, 2010

Another Bush Lie

George W. Bush rescued the economy from collapse, according to Karen Hughes. Bush's former campaign director attacked President Barack Obama on NBC Sunday, defending the record of her former boss on the economy.

Speaking about Obama's successes, journalist Mark Halperin praised the current president's handling of the economy. "He's done, I think, an extraordinary job running the government under difficult circumstances. He managed the economic crisis, kept the world from going into depression," said Halperin.

But Hughes quickly took objection to Halperin's assessment. "I have to disagree with you, Mark, about rescuing the economy," she said. "I think that happened before President Bush left office when they took the action that they did on TARP and the banks have now repaid much of that money but that's what stabilized the economy and prevented the collapse of the financial system."

At a time when at least 140 banks failed just within weeks of Bush leaving the White House, record deficits due to excessive wars and tax breaks for the wealthy, and run away corruption from Wall Street and Corporate America; now Bush's friends claim he saved the economy.

Do the millions of unemployed Americans feel Bush saved the economy? Do the millions who have faced or are about to face foreclosure feel Bush saved their homes? Do those victims from Katrina, who were abandoned by Bush and left with nothing think Bush saved the economy?

Bush has been hiding in the rag weeds of Texas while millions upon millions are suffering at the despicable policies of George W Bush. Bush didn't save the economy, he turned it into Hell on Earth!