WORDS TO LIVE BY

Watch your thoughts, they become your words
Watch your words, they become your actions
Watch your actions, they become your habits
Watch your habits, they become your character

CHARACTER IS EVERYTHING

GARY ZUKAV: Stress is the consequence of resistance to your life. (Most disease is stress-related, even cancer.) When we resist, argue, are angry or make others wrong... we are not at peace with our true nature. When you relax into acceptance, that's when you can start reclaiming your peace.
Your life is now; you can't wait to become peaceful.

Acceptance of whatever is going on, is the key to serenity.

Weapons (Implements) of violence serve evil. Humanity has failed to learn this profound teaching. There is no victory in any activiity where killing takes place.
We are all connected by our originating spirit. What appears to be a victory is really false.

Taking pleasure in winning a battle is onlly the ego's will to kill. Our lowest nature. Our highest nature rebels against this.

Anything "won" by force is not a victory. It will turn against you.

Arms serve evil; they are the tools of those who oppose wise rule. If you kill someone you must feel compassion for the one you killed.




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An Open Letter to Harvey Levin of TMZ: Is Domestic Violence Awareness Month is NOT Woman Bashing Month

Dear Harvey, I've been meaning to write you for some time, but in between stalking breaks, I've been too shell-schocked to compose a sentence. After reading the most hateful, vicious comments on TMZ, I almost gave up. 

Fortunately, Prince Harry's naked buttocks took over my story just as I was about to collapse from sadness, but here's what I want to say:

As October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I need to finally tell the story of Cheri. I housed and helped rescue a battered woman who had been hit in the head with the claw-end of a hammer by her husband. She suffered a brain aneurysm as a result. A sweeter human being I have yet to meet. 

In September, when your website TMZ, released the story about me with the headline: "Psychotic Stalker Wants to Bash My Face In" and then posted the creepiest photo you could find of me, it inspired women-bashers to post such sweet comments as:  "She is so f--ugly she deserves to have her face bashed in" and "Whatever happened to that ugly bitch? She looks like she already had her face bashed in" you added a deeper cut than the ones I had already suffered at the hands of this abusive stalker.  

(FYI: I found out I was suing Kelsey when I read the headlines on Radar and Huffington post. My counsel put a gag order on me and threatened me. Then I found out the co-counsel in our case was a convicted felon who became my stalker!  On September 13, 2012, I was dismissed from the Civil case with prejudice. I  am no longer suing Kelsey Grammer, never wanted to sue him, and it is my sincere hope that any damage to Kelsey’s reputation is repaired.  

On Sept. 18, I won a restraining order from the stalker. It's been the weirdest, scariest journey. Facebook Fans, friends, witnesses, and 4 bodyguards showed up for the stalker hearing.  We celebrated afterwards at Pink Taco. 

Why couldn't I have a normal stalker like Sheryl Crowe's? Mine filed a one -hundred page restraining order against me claiming I'm really a man named Jason Meadows, a mafia criminal, a FEMA spy, and a sexual predator stalking his grandchildren in Tennessee. I have not been to Tennessee since I was nine years old for the Little Miss Cotton finals!

This stalker has been making the decisions in our lawsuit againt the organized criminals. You have no idea how bizarre this whole thing is. He pretended to be my friend, then when I found out the truth about him, he turned into a psychopath.)

Anyway, back to my letter -- you attacked the victim. By encouraging hateful comments like this, you reinforce the misogyny and bullying that provokes hate crimes. If I were gay or Black would you leave up comments like this?  You are not helping women or young girls. You're telling them that no matter what abuse they've been through, no matter what they've achieved in life, the only thing that matters is how they look. 

It would be one thing if I really looked like that (in which case, you would be even more cruel)  but why not post a realistic photo of me — the way I really look? 

And why is it okay to bash women for not looking "beautiful" in a photo according to  a lingerie model's standards? Don't you know that all human suffering is caused by Victoria's Secret? 

And it looked like someone doctored that photo by adding extra sweat glands, a meaty nose and a fat chin — or maybe it was just a bad angle. The point is, what was your point?  Do you think it's easy for women to get work in this town if they are over 30 or 40?  

Below are the most recent ones taken at charity events this past year, all unretouched.  

There are lots of disturbed people out there. I've met a few on Facebook. In light of the fact that I received death threats from Ann Coulter's fans (for writing a humor column on her "extermination speak" combined with the fact that this stalker posted my home address online and urged people to "shoot me" the way Rebecca Shaeffer was shot -- do you really think this is good business? 

I was going through a traumatic divorce in which my husband left me for Gene Simmons (KISS tour.)   This stalker, a fan I met on Kelsey Grammer's site, where I hosted a comedy-recovery show, seemed like a saint, a kindly mentor and "grandpa." He said he was a disabled veteran and that he met me in Beirut when I went for the USO at Audrey Meadows' behest. (Meadows played my grandmother on Too Close for Comfort).  He posed as my trusted friend, and because he was disabled, I assumed he was harmless. He was the first man I ever met who didn't come onto me or try to take advantage of me! LOL He has turned out to be the most abusive, malicious psychopath I could imagine. 

He posted my home address on public websites and stated that I was a hooker and a criminal that must be punished...  and much worse.. (things I can never repeat.) He urged people to "shoot me" the way Rebecca Shaeffer was shot. All because I rejected his romantic advances. This was BEFORE I found out he was a convicted felon and career criminal posing as a war hero and JAG C federal attorney in the "Kelsey Grammer case. " This stalker has been making the decisions in our lawsuit againt the organized criminals. You have no idea how bizarre this whole thing is.  

I will make a statement soon about Kelsey Grammer to set the record straight. When I found out the truth, he went after me.  

Please reconsider your policies. I do think you are a good person, and you have some enlightened ideas. But last week when you pointed out the hate-Tweets that Stacy Dash received (and even highlighted the worst comment: "that she should kill herself for supporting Romney) I wish you had realized that TMZ did the same thing to me.  (And so did Ann Coulter when she pubished my home address and phone number on her website and told her fans to go after me when I stood up to her 'extermination speak.')

Harvey, I don't mean to sound so harsh, but maybe your influential magazine and website could help us with a joint effort to stop the hatred and the bashing all around -- of everyone, every race, tribe, gender, sexual preference and political leaning.. 

Would you please join me in eradicating BULLYING by starting a Cyber stalking site to help women and other defenseless victims who have no resources, can't afford an attorney and can't navigate through the tangled maze of legal documents and hearings required to obtain and enforce restraining orders?  There is a gap here -- between online cyber bullying, which my police deparment doesn't seem to take seriously, and the actual serial killer with a hatchet who is at a woman's front door. They don't seem to have an "in-between" or a good deterrent to this kind of insidious, life-draining stalking in which a predator undermines your entire existence, your age, your looks, (mine posted close ups of my wrinkles, my neck with  and told everyone I had sexually transmitted diseases, etc. 

What category does this fall under?  Domestic Violence or Civil Harrassment?  Shouldn't they call it a hate crime?  This man destroyed my peace of mind, my son's high school graduation, my ability to get a job, to meet writing deadlines, to earn income, to live, breath, pay my bills, and function. This is called stalking.  I have to run back and forth to court to fight frivolous lies that he keeps filing because he knows how to abuse and game the court system. 

I noticed you helped Ellen Page when her stalker attaked her online. I went through a court process that gave the Stalker (a known criminal) more rights than I had. They actually allowed him to abuse the Courts by filing lies and more lies and perjured statements in  continuance based on the most flimsy, provable lies. He has perjured himself in several states and continues to ruin perjure himself and when my heariing finally came about, the Stalker was given more air time than I was, even thought he lied about everything. 

The stalker is now trying to appeal the restraining order (LOL! That's a funny sentence) and is violating it by harassing me with early morning doorbell ringing by some "process server".  He never stops! I am afraid to answer my front door, afraid to go outside, and have to stay away from my own house, out of town. 

Isn't serving me with another fake legal document a violation in itself? He was ordered never to contact me again and not to serve me anymore "fake legal paperwork" by the judge!  During the court hearing he actually told the judge "But I am the Private Attorney General for the State of California and I have to protect the Citizens of CA from Lydia Cornell!  

Is Domestic Violence Month Woman Bashing Month?

I offered to help him and I had no idea who he was and have been in mortal terror. 

And I have been suffering unbelievable cruelty at the hands of this stalker, a fan I met on Kelsey's site, whom I thought was disabled veteran, whom I was trying to help — but who turned out to be a convicted felon. He tricked me into believing he was a war hero and an attorney, whom I finally got a restraining order against. 

He is trying to appeal the restraining order. LOL 

I say we join forces and stand up against my best friend, a gay man, has an anti-bullying campaign.. suffered 

By the way Harvey, I do need your advice on some legal matters. The stalker is abusing the legal system and filing appeals my restraining order.

THE TAPESTRY

Choosing to be kind is also a choice to make the Power of Intention active in your life. The beneficial effects of kindness on the immune system and the increased production of serotonin have been proven. Conversely, unkindness weakens the body and puts us into a state of dissonance. So extend acts of kindness; ask for nothing in return.

FC: Is this realistic for non-saints?

Dyer: [Laughter] We're all saints! That's the whole point. We all have built into us this intention, the capacities for kindness and creativity and beauty. It's a matter of perspective. As Einstein said, "The single most important decision any of us will ever make is whether or not to believe that the universe is friendly." It's your choice.

FC: But it's a pretty violent, messy planet, isn't it?

Dyer: It is. But for every act of violence and messiness there are a million acts of kindness and goodness. It just depends where you look. And when I look around at virtually anyone or anything on the planet, I can see another face of intention - beauty.

FC: In an effort to practice kindness, you recommend viewing every human encounter as a "holy relationship," the ability to celebrate and honor others, no matter who. But what about when you encounter people who are irritating, rude or even destructive?

Dyer: Generally, I try to stop myself from getting frustrated. I'm not a hundred percent successful, but I'm a thousand times better than I used to be. Anyone who's angry, nasty or rude is really offering a plea to be loved. I play a game with myself, trying to convert them from what I call low-energy emotions that drain us - frustration, irritation, anger and impatience - into high-energy emotions that sustain us - love, caring, kindness.

FC: How do you do it?

Dyer: By asking that surly waiter or harried airline clerk something about themselves or by expressing empathy, "Where are you from? It must be tough standing on your feet for eight hours." Anything to let a person know that, in that moment, I'm thinking more about them than about myself. And you know what happens? Instantly you see a smile.

FC: So paired with kindness would be another face of intention, what you call receptivity. No one and no thing is rejected?

Dyer: Exactly. Whenever you have a thought that excludes or judges anyone else, you aren't defining them. You're defining yourself as someone who needs to judge others.

FC: But don't we all judge one another?

Dyer: Yes, we do. But doing that less is one of those things we want to practice. Anytime I judge another harshly, I always find myself feeling worse.

FC: So when you're feeling offended by others...

Dyer: Remember this rule: Stop taking yourself so seriously! Get your ego out of the way and connect back to kindness - that from which you came.

FC: In your book, you write that controlling ego is intention's enemy.

Dyer: Ego is the part of us that believes: I am what I have, I am what I do. I am what others think of me. All this is just an illusion. The problem? If you are what you do, then who are you when you don't do it any longer? If you are what you have - then when you no longer have it, you no longer have any value!

The truth is that we are all spiritual beings. And when you see yourself as a piece of God, then you see yourself as connected to everything and everyone.




The tsunami and the tapestry

Somehow in this day and age, we’ve seen too much, done too much, been too naked. I don’t think anything impresses anyone anymore. Except seeing, actually seeing God. The great mystical force. I was thinking about the tragedy of the hurricane or the tsunami – and how many bodies have rotted and evaporated – how quickly human life is snuffed out. It proves to me what I’ve always known: that man is not made of matter, that rotting flesh has no essence in and of itself --- no matter how real the illusion seems. Man is spiritual; we are linked to the divine mind, the one mind, God -- and to each other with the fabric, of love. This is a universe of thought. Thought is energy and it is swift; the swiftest of all energies ( too bad those icky Boat veterans forever ruined this word for me.) See I’m a victim of my thought.

Imagine if the human pageant were just a tapestry – and God sees the complete picture on the finished side, but we only see dangling threads that keep disappearing whenever they are being woven in and out. Certain threads disappear because they are part of a grand stitch that completes a beautiful landscape – or picture on the other side. We can’t see the whole picture. In the mind of the great thinker, we are just his thoughts (that have been formed by the thinker.) God is the one thinking us up. It’s not about the outer stuff, it’s the inward journey of completion.

I am deeply humbled by our men and women in the military, and in awe at their courage and sacrifice. These amazing people are true super-heroes -- along with fire fighters and police. God Bless those who died for our freedom. I went to Beirut for the USO on Christmas Eve 1982 -- visiting the Marines of the 24th MAU the "Beirut Bolts and Bombers", along with soldiers and sailors of the International Peacekeeping Force. Went to underground artillery units where one light bulb illumined dark cave-like dungeon; we sang Christmas carols with the boys, then stayed up all night with Capt. Dale Dye, a flask and Johnny Grant in the Beirut Carlton. We were on the 14th floor. The first 13 floors were bombed out or was this my imagination? At dawn, they took us by chopper to the aircraft carriers USS Inchon and USS Shreveport. I lost my high-heel overboard. Kissed a lot of guys (on the cheek) and signed autographs. Later we went to a certain building for the changing of the guard. A short time after I left, the first suicide bomber drove a truck into the Marine barracks and blew up 251 of our best and brightest Marines while they slept. Years later I got a fan letter from the son of one of these heroes who died. He had never known his father, but knew I had met him before he died.

You know how you wake up in life and become ‘conscious’? Well that hasn’t happened to me yet, but I’ve had glimpses of a perfect universe. Nothing makes sense anymore, so I may as well offer an alternative version. Here’s how I see it: it’s normal to be a liberal democrat and believe in Christ. In fact, "conservative Christian" doesn't make sense; it's an oxymoron. It’s okay to disagree a lot with the ACLU, hate abortion and still be a liberal democrat. It’s okay to be offended by Howard Stern and still be a democrat who believes in free speech. Real women don't like being objectified by Howard Stern or advertising or porn and don’t think the F-word is representative of free speech; women who look like a dumb blondes are not always dumb -- we're a persecuted minority and should have minority status -- so we deserve Affirmative Action. I hope you know that’s a joke.
Love is the Principle of unity, the basis of all right thinking and acting; it fulfils the law. We see eye to eye and know as we are known, reciprocate kindness and work wisely, in proportion as we love.

The More You Sweat in Peace, the Less You Bleed in War

From Adam McKay at HUFFPO:

Dear Adam,

My cousin John was in Iraq for a year, in combat near Baghdad. He didn't win the Congressional Medal of Honor or anything (though he did get promoted twice, and ended up a Sgt.). He's been meeting with congress people and the like because he became an anti-war activist when he came back. Just to give you an idea:

The other day I found a news story on a suburban news website. It was about the Bucks County (Pa.) Democratic headquarters. They have a sign in the window that says "We honor our fallen heroes". Beneath it is a running count of the Iraq war death toll. The Young Republicans of Bucks County (I feel queasy just typing that phrase), are protesting the sign, trying to get them to take it down. No, seriously.

The president of the organization was quoted in the article. Don something. I emailed the story to John, because I knew it would interest him. The next day he called Don on the phone, and followed up with this email:

Letter to chairman of Bucks County Young Republicans.

From the Comment section: False Patriotism? Try False Everything. Republican "warriors" have always sent others to die for their causes. Their SOP is to socialize costs while privatizing benefits. In the case of war, promoters are usually the beneficiaries while others pay the true costs. I wonder how many of those Young Republicans even visit the permanently maimed soldiers that lay in beds at the VA hospitals. Very few, I expect.

Letter to chairman of Bucks County Young Republicans.
Don,

I called you to get some sort of understanding on the reason why you were upset that the Bucks County Democratic Headquarters has posted the death count of US Troops in Iraq outside their office. You had explained to me that you feel the local Democrats are trying to play politics on the issue of the Iraq war. They say they are just trying to honor our fallen troops.

I agree with you that Democrats voted right along side of Republicans to give President Bush the authority to invade Iraq. That is an undisputed fact. But in the end it was the decision of the President to
take us to war. As a veteran of that war I don't feel that it is wrong to let the public know that troops are dying every day in Iraq. It's not politics it's just plain reality.

This morning you told me that out of your whole organization (Bucks County Young Republicans) only two or three members plan to pursue military service. And at the same time you told me that your

This morning you told me that out of your whole organization (Bucks County Young Republicans) only two or three members plan to pursue military service. And at the same time you told me that your
organization supports the war in Iraq. If your organization is so supportive of the war maybe more than two or three of your members should volunteer for military service. Believe me those troops in Iraq
could use a little extra help. We have soldiers right now that are on their third tour of duty.

When I got home from Iraq after a year long combat tour I attended a Kerry/Edwards rally in Kansas City. At the rally I was confronted by a group of able-bodied males carrying signs that said "Students For Bush." They called me a traitor, a disgrace, and they told me to move to France. They said this because I was going to vote for Senator Kerry. They claim to be so supportive of the troops, but they were not at all supportive of me. I guess that only applies to troops who share their political ideas. I just returned home from a war that they support, but obviously don't have the courage to fight. If they did
they would be fighting it. It is much easier to support a war from your office, classroom, or from your cozy living room than from the actual battlefield.

I served with plenty of troops who are pro-Bush and pro-Iraq war. For the most part they were the majority. I had respect for them despiteour disagreements because those troops put their money where their mouth is. They have definitely earned their right to an opinion. Just as I have earned mine.

About a year ago I contacted an old friend of mine who belongs to the Philadelphia Young Republicans. I asked him how many in his group had served. He replied that he thinks that one of them served in Kosovo back in the late 90s. It seems like there is a lot of "false patriotism" going around these days. The hefty amount of "flag waving" and "chest beating" is not balancing out the low recruitment levels.

The purpose of this email is not to be confrontational or attack the Republican Party. I don't want people to misunderstand me. My motives are to try and educate as many people as I can about the reality of the situation in Iraq.

I am a strong supporter and advocate of Congressman John Murtha's resolution. My experience in Iraq has made me a critic of the war. At this point in time I feel that the US Military has done everything that
can possibly be done in Iraq. The time has come to bring our troops home. Especially now that it has been established that every reason we went there never existed. And the Bush administration now concedes that as well. So why should more troops continue to die? I can't think of
one logical answer or reason.

Respectfully,

John Bruhns
Iraq War Veteran

Now that the police have apologized, still I wonder. How was Ms. Sheehan's actions, even at Bush's ranch in Crawford, Texas, disrespectful and criminal? As a commenter named Lori says in BradBlog's comment section below: "What is inappropriate about a mother whose son died in Iraq, quietly honoring and remembering our loved ones killed in the US/Iraq War, during the President's State of the Union address? Isn't the U.S. Capitol, paid for by our tax dollars, in fact, the best arena and time to honor those whose lives were lost through their patriotic duty? What is criminal about honoring the dead who gave their lives in the name of this country - who gave their lives for a noble cause, according to our president, so that others will know and share in this same cherished state of democracy and freedom as we, in these United States, are so fortunate to know.

I would think if one does not have the noblest cause for engaging our men and women in war, then one would feel desperately threatened by such emotional "branding", so to speak, and would perhaps, "legally" restrain one from such display. And you did just that, Mr. Bush and Co., with your overt contempt and disdain for the citizens of this country by the removal of Ms Sheehan from your State of the Union address.