I said to my friend, who happens to be a psychoanalyst, "I think I'll stop
worrying and analyzing my problems and see what happens."
She nearly bit my head off. She said, "Are you crazy? You
have to analyze your problems or they might go away!"
For me, having a pity party is the fastest way to hell. Instead
I like to look up, see that the sky isn't falling, and realize it could be
worse. Then find a way to laugh at yourself. This too shall pass.
Take a deep breath and accept that this is what is happening for
whatever reason, at this moment. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger
and wiser. We don't have control or power over other people's screw-ups
or pathology, lack of morals or unkindness. We only have control over our
reactions. We can choose to think good thoughts even about our enemies,
and not resist anything going on at any moment. Disease and stress (which
creates biochemical pathways to disease) are created when we are in resistance
to the moment: when we are wanting something that is not happening or trying to
prevent something from happening, or not being in agreement with reality.
Acceptance is the key to serenity.
Thoughts have substance, and we manifest those things that
occupy our thoughts. "What you think about grows, so be careful, watch
what you allow into your mind. We have the power to reverse our
circumstances by reversing our thoughts. Surrender to the moment. Accept
whatever is happening, no matter how "bad" it looks or feels.
Acceptance is the key to serenity.