EMOTIONAL BOOTCAMP: BEYOND THE MORTAL REALM

THIS IS THE SOLUTION! THIS IS THE BEST ARTICLE I HAVE EVER READ on why I act the way I do. This amazing article by Mike Bundrant PSYCH CENTRAL on why we screw our lives up and sabotage great things and behave the way we do is a MUST READ!  (Meanwhile I am obsessed by the tragic death of Elisa Lam, may she rest in peace.) 

Mike Bundrant is co-founder of the iNLP Center and host of Mental Health Exposed, a Natural News Radio program.

This is an AHA moment. Transformative. Now I'm ready to stop the old behavior. Do you recognize yourself here? 

Seven Facts about the Psyche that Lead you Right into a World of Illusion | NLP Discoveries http://blogs.psychcentral.com/nlp/2013/02/psyche-illusion/ via @PsychCentral

Seven Facts about the Psyche
that Lead you Right into a
World of Illusion

By MIKE BUNDRANT

Do you sometimes experience feelings or behaviors that you cannot explain?

Most people have an area of their life that just doesn’t add up. When you factor in all that you know, you just can’t make sense of it.

Why do you do things that are counterproductive or even harmful to your goals and desires?

These are signs and symptoms of self-deception; living in a self-created matrix of illusion.

If you can digest the following mind-bending facts about the human psyche, you may have the AHA experience of a lifetime. Or, maybe it will open a new area of exploration that has potential to explain a lot. I hope it does, because the following serves as the gateway to the matrix. See the entrance. See the exit! Here are the facts:

1. When you were born, you could not tell the difference between truth and lies

Children do not have truth/falsehood filters. Whatever parents tell children, they not only believe, but anticipate and act on. This is how Santa Claus manages to stick around.

When kids believe in Santa, they behave accordingly. They write letters to Santa, stay up at night to get a glimpse, leave out cookies on Christmas Eve, try not to be on the naughty list and so on.

We act on what we believe is true.

2. You learned many other things that were false, then you made those things pleasurable

Enter the first major, hard-to-believe glitch in the program.If you learned only helpful or harmless things as a child, you’d be set up for a lifetime of success. Sadly, you were taught many things that are false.

Here’s the mind-blower: You made these lies pleasurable. I almost hate to be the one to break this to you, but it is true. Children cannot filter out falsehood and they make perceived truth pleasurable. If you did not make truth pleasurable, then you would never act on it. When you are taught that a lie is true, thenseeking the lie becomes right and familiar. This combination of traits can turn your whole world upside down. It may be the number one human vulnerability; the key to our undoing.

On a personal level, perhaps you learned that you are not worth anyone’s time. Perhaps you discovered that there is no point in thinking for yourself. Maybe you learned that it is useless to try to succeed. Perhaps you learned that you do not fit in.

Let’s say you were taught that you weren’t worth your parents’ time. When you needed help, they were busy. When you wanted to play, they weren’t interested. When you were proud of yourself and wanted to brag, they dismissed you.

3. You now live the lies as if they were true

Modern culture encourages older children to let go of their harmless belief in Santa Claus. Most parents are sensitive enough and comfortable guiding their children through the process.

Modern culture offers no encouragement or process to let go of the harmful lies you were told. When you think about it, people might be better off believing in Santa for life than believing they are worthless as a person for life. Still, there is no rite of passage, no method and virtually no mention that young adults should examine beliefs related to their upbringing.

Worse, extraordinarily few people exist on this planet who know how to help others identify and let go of the lies they are living.

So, as an adult, you are now living the lie that you are worthless. You treat yourself the way your parents treated you. You don’t take care of yourself, respect yourself or give yourself the time and sacrifice necessary to create the life you want.

You act on the lie. You don’t care what you eat or what goes into your body. You don’t make time for yourself. You find it hard to accept compliments. You don’t keep commitments to yourself. You are uncomfortable around people with high self-esteem, etc…

Worse, you find a strange, unexplainable pleasure or personal familiarity in treating yourself this way. This only adds shame to the mix.

4. The lies you live are threatening, painful and embarrassing

Here’s why letting go of lies is so difficult. If you are living a lie, you probably don’t want to admit it. The lie you are living isn’t pretty. Who wants to face the ugliness and pain at the core of their being?

No one wants to appear weak or worthless. Everyone is putting their best foot forward and burying the unmentionables. Your ego does not want to see the truth!

5. So, you hide the lies from yourself (others can see your lies plainly)

Your campaign to hide the painful lie-you-believe-is-true is wholesale. You hide the lie by setting out to prove your worth to the world, as if you could deny the lie by worldly success. You ignore your feelings. You look down on “weak” or “unimportant” people.

You avoid intimacy, unconsciously fearing that if someone were to get to know you, they’d disapprove. If someone suggests in any way that you might be mistaken or to blame for something, you get defensive. You avoid at all costs any hint that you might be less than you portray yourself.

The bitter irony is that all this is totally unnecessary. You are not worthless. You never were. You only believed the lie and now act upon it regularly, at times getting a strange satisfaction from it.

6. Now you are stuck doing things you hate (sort of) for reasons you do not understand

All this leads to an incredible bind. You are strangely attracted to being less than – it is familiar territory for you. All the ways you act upon this belief are troubling, but the denial is so thick that you don’t know where to begin to figure it all out.

You set goals that would improve your life, then sabotage those goals because you lean heavily toward that attachment to being less than. You know you should not eat junk, smoke junk, drink junk, do junk, treat yourself like junk, but you do so anyway. You understand the consequences of such behaviors, but do not seem to care. In fact, you are oddly invested in bringing more junk upon yourself.

7. You resist solutions to your problem

When real solutions present themselves, you reject them. When people try to help, you become offended and pretend you have no problem. You even judge others who have obvious problems to move attention away from your own (Reality TV is a good vehicle for this).

It is entirely possible for you to stare real solutions in the face, admit they are solutions, then proceed to do the opposite and resent anyone who calls you on your irresponsible behavior.

You live the lie, take pleasure in the lie, fear solutions to the lie, don’t know who you would be without the lie and keep all this from yourself with amazing agility.

Perfect candidates for scams of all kinds

Scammers of all kinds love to prey upon our struggle by offering pretended solutions that do not require us to dig deep. Take a pill. You’ll feel better. Kick the can down the road. Buy this or that personal growth program that promises easy solutions and quick, painless fixes. Anything to avoid looking at ourselves deeply.

Digging deep is the only solution, however. Do not be afraid to do it. The only dark secrets lurking in your psyche will transform into enlightenment the moment you discover them.

Watch the free video The AHA! Process: An End to Self-Sabotage and discover the lost keys to personal transformation and emotional well-being that have been suppressed by mainstream mental health for decades. 

The information in this video has been called the missing link in mental health and personal development. In a world full of shallow, quick-fix techniques, second rate psychology and pharmaceutical takeovers, real solutions have become nearly impossible to find. This presentation will turn your world upside down. 

Mike Bundrant is co-founder of the iNLP Center and host of Mental Health Exposed, a Natural News Radio program. 

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DARK ENERGY MISSION

News release: 2013-055                                                             Feb. 12, 2013 JPL to Lead U.S. Science Team for Dark Energy Mission  The full version of this story with accompanying images is at: http://www.jpl.nasa.gov/news/news.php?release=2013-055&cid=release_2013-055 PASADENA, Calif. -- The European Space Agency (ESA) has selected three NASA-nominated science teams to participate in their planned Euclid mission, including one team led by NASA's Jet Propulsion Laboratory in Pasadena, Calif. NASA is a partner in the Euclid mission, a space telescope designed to probe the mysteries of dark energy and dark matter. Euclid is currently scheduled to launch in 2020. JPL will provide 16 advanced infrared detectors and four spare detectors for one of two instruments planned for the mission. In addition, JPL will contribute to science planning and data analysis with the help of its 43-member science team, the largest of the three U.S. teams. This team, led by JPL scientist Jason Rhodes, is composed of 29 scientists recently nominated by NASA, and 14 U.S. scientists who are already part of Euclid. The other two U.S. science teams are led by Ranga-Ram Chary of the Infrared Processing and Analysis Center at the California Institute of Technology, Pasadena; and Alexander Kashlinsky of NASA's Goddard Space Flight Center, Greenbelt, Md.; with three and seven members, respectively. Rhodes also was appointed by NASA to be a member of ESA's principal 12-member Euclid Science Team and the U.S. representative for the Euclid Consortium's governing body. The Euclid Consortium is an international body of 1,000 members, including the U.S. science team members, and will build the instruments and analyze the science data jointly.                 "Understanding the hidden contents of the universe and the nature of the dark energy will require the collaboration of astronomers and engineers around the world," said Rhodes. Euclid will observe up to two billion galaxies occupying more than one-third of the sky with the goal of better understanding the contents of our universe. Everyday matter that we see around us, for example in tables and chairs, people and even stars, makes up only a few percent of everything in our cosmos. If you could fill a bucket with the mass and energy contents of our universe, this everyday matter would fill only a small fraction. A larger amount, about 24 percent, would consist of dark matter, an invisible substance that does not reflect or emit any light, but exerts a gravitational tug on other matter. The majority of our universal bucket, about 73 percent, is thought to be filled with dark energy, something even more mysterious than dark matter. Whereas dark matter pulls through its gravity, dark energy is thought to be a repulsive force pushing matter apart. Scientists think dark energy may be responsible for stretching our universe apart at ever-increasing speeds, an observation that earned the Nobel Prize in 2011. Euclid scientists will use two methods to make the most precise measurements yet of our "dark" universe. The first method, called weak lensing, involves analyzing the shapes of billions of galaxies across more than half the age of the universe. When dark matter lies in front of galaxies, it can't be seen, but its gravity distorts the light from the galaxies behind it. More dark matter will lead to slightly larger distortions. By measuring these minute distortions, scientists can understand the amount and distribution of the dark matter between these galaxies and us. Changes in these dark matter structures over time are governed by interplay between the attractive force of gravity and the repulsive dark energy. Thus, studying galaxy shapes reveals information about both dark matter and dark energy. The second method, called galaxy clustering or baryon acoustic oscillations, will serve as an independent measurement of dark energy. Early in the universe, galaxies were imprinted with a standard distance between them. This distance -- referred to as a standard ruler -- expands as the universe itself expands. By making precise measurements of the distances between tens of millions of galaxies, the scientists will be able to chart this expansion and learn more about the dark energy driving it. Observations of how the galaxies are clustered will also further probe dark matter. The JPL-led U.S. science team will employ both of these methods and work together with the rest of the Euclid scientists to shine light on the darkest riddles of our cosmos. Of the 43 team members, six are based at JPL. They are: Olivier Doré, Peter Eisenhardt, Alina Kiessling, Leonidas Moustakas, Jason Rhodes and Daniel Stern. Two additional team members, Peter Capak and Harry Teplitz, are based at the Infrared Processing and Analysis Center. Mike Seiffert is the U.S. project scientist for Euclid at JPL, and Ulf Israelsson is the U.S. project manager at JPL. Euclid is a European Space Agency mission with science instruments and data analysis provided by the Euclid consortium with important participation from NASA. NASA's Euclid Project Office is based at JPL. JPL will contribute the infrared flight detectors for one of Euclid's two science instruments. NASA Goddard will assist with infrared detector characterization and will perform detailed testing on flight detectors prior to delivery. Three U.S. science teams, led by JPL, Goddard and the Infrared Processing and Analysis Center at Caltech, will contribute to science planning and data analysis. Caltech manages JPL for NASA. More information is online at http://www.nasa.gov/euclid and http://sci.esa.int/science-e/www/area/index.cfm?fareaid=102 . 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YOUNG WOMEN, TEENS and GIRLS: DON'T GIVE IN TO MEDIA PRESSURE

YOU ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL and PERFECT AS YOU ARE!

TO ALL YOUNG WOMEN, TEENS, GIRLS OF ANY AGE: You are ALL beautiful and perfect whatever age or size you are. We have to turn off the critics and love ourselves. You are wonderful, and most of you have such a sweet spirit. Nurture your inner life, your heart and soul. Nothing else matters but how you love yourself and spread that love and acceptance to others. Most of my problems in life came from low self-esteem, which made me envious and worthless feeling.

I am now resigning from the debating society and going back to spreading love, light and prayers for ALL who are suffering. I am no longer going to post anything that comes from anger, unless it serves to enlighten. Luv xo

                                   Ashley, Lydia, Freda in Texarkana!!

THE WORLD IS GOOD ~ LURCHING TOWARD A CIVILIZED NEW AMERICA ~ HAPPY NEW YEAR

HAPPY NEW YEAR! 

The world is not ending; it is just beginning. 

We are lurching awkwardly out of our growing pains toward "enlightenment" an annoying term. 

2013 is going to be a great year. I used to say that we were snowballing toward excess and chaos — but it had to happen this way..  that the insane greed, porn and violence in this country have gone so far over the top that there is only one way to go: UP.  We have made the taboo all too thrilling (and profitable) because of our Puritan ethic. We are a nation of masochists: criticizing each other, shaming each other, chastising each other for our "sins" and lusts —  which helps sales of porn and guns and the "forbidden." Death has become sexier than sex, as I wrote in my article about 'extermination speaker' Ann Coulter, aka "Dragon lady of Hate Speech." 

At home December 29, 2012

And we impose so many harsh punishments for innocent mistakes. I just ran out to my car to put another quarter in the meter, in the rain and saw a $53 parking ticket on my car for being THREE MINUTES late. Are we a fascist state?  If this is the kind of government people are against, I'm against it too. But these exhorbitant crimes started with Congress witholding a living wage and proper taxes for the common good. Cities are hungry and desperately imposing higher fines because of the corruption and greed. It all started with a certain trickle down mindset. 

Like debauched piggy teenagers speeding toward our own demise, we've seen too much, done too much, been too naked. We've raped, pillaged, invaded, coveted, envied, forced ourselves on nations, started false wars and generally lusted after excess. We praised "selfishness" as a vitue, We made preteens sexy as a form of advertising pedophilia and pretended it was freedom of speech. And everyone blamed the artists for the loose morals of Hollywood, when in fact, it was the opposite: it the people making huge advertising profits by over-sexualizing teens and objectifying the young. It was all about ratings. It has always been about the dollar, the bottom line.

The filmmakers and artists I know loathe homogenized pop culture and are almost allergic to high ratings for ratings sake. NOt fans of the middle, the lowest common denominator or the bell curve, most artists are too sensitive to withstand The Jerry Springer Show. Someone is buying it: lovers of red meat in the modern gladiator forum. The best "liberal" filmmakers like Spielberg, Payne, Stone, Soderbergh, Affleck, Damon love films and TV shows with heart, depth and social justice.

But it had to happen this way. We had to reach a chaotic, criminally insane breaking point. And it might get worse before it gets better. We are so immature; we thrive on style over substance. And though we've had too much too soon, reason and sanity are returning, despite appearances. The physical picture, the so-called "reality" we see with our senses has very little to do with reality. Like the software inside a computer, it's what's invisible that counts: the underlying harmony, love and hope we all hold in our hearts. Our desire for justice, equality, peace and the common good. These are the principles that hold mankind together. These are spiritual qualities. It's a "thought universe" and thoughts make the world, as Ralph Waldo Emerson put it. 

After we've had all the perversions, all the sex, drugs and rock and roll.. the excess crap and  materialism -- where else can we go but to the real, the love that runs all things, feeds all things, forgives all things?  

Christmas with Chazzy, Mom and Jack

LydiaCornell ~ Los Angeles, December 29, 2012

Lydia Cornell ~ Los Angeles, Dec. 29, 2012

Lydia Cornell, Stacy Patrick, Elisa

Kathryn, Lydia at home

Ldyia Cornell with Poppy and Paul at the Hollywood Christmas Parade  in the 80s

Christmas 2012: Chazzy, Jack and Grandma (my mom)

THE GOOD 

We have had countless miracles. Every day, focus on the good around you and if you are suffering expect a miracle. Miracles are actually natural laws. God is LOVE, not an anthropomorphic (man-like being) sitting in the sky. Prayer is the invisbile transfer of love to another. This has nothing to do with religion. Religion can be soothing and kind and wonderful, but it's still a man-made institution that is flawed and corruptible. But GOD is in every heart. The Kingdom is within you. Love one another. There is no power greater than LOVE.

At Jeff Franklin's Party with the Beach Boys, October 2012

STOP BEING BULLIED ~ TODAY IS THE DAY

DO MEN THINK CARRYING A GUN IS SEXY?  THE SHOOTING OF INNOCENTS

"The shooter, dressed in para-military gear, targeted kindergartners and first graders." ~ CNN

 Do men think guns are sexy?

Should the government allow everyone to have a stash of Anthrax or a personal nuclear weapon or a missle in their closet, just in case ya'll need it to kill a group of people with?  You think a weapon that can kill 30 people in rapid succession is a normal weapon?  Is it really fear driving you or "eye for an eye" renegade justice? Or is it talk radio amping up the "survivalist mentality" out of fear of the so--called Apocalypse? 

First of all, America worships violence. I am so sensitive lately I can't even watch a James Bond movie. I was so upset over my husband and stepson's immunity and lack of feeling over the last violent movie we saw together, I had to get out of the car and walk home. Violence is not normal to the human soul. My stepson actually got mad at me and said he was annoyed that I was making him "have a conscience" and making him think. He just wanted to enjoy the killing in the movie without being reminded that human lives were spent.

Anger and fear are a deadly combination, no matter what "mentall illness" bad mood, or depression someone is going through. Words cannot describe the pain and grief these families are feeling right now. Our hearts go out to everyone who has lost a child, parent, brother, sister or loved one. God Bless the families of Newton, Connecticut, Aurora, Colorado and Happy Valley, Orgeon — and all the others from Gabby Gifford's shooting, to the Virginia Tech shooting to the Unity Church shooting (egged on by Rush Limbaugh and the other fear mongers who hate liberals for being peacemakers) and the Colombine massacre, and all other mass shootings of innocents throughout our history.

 The time has come. Providence has stepped in, as was the case with Hurricane Sandy. There is no mistaking the evidence, and what we have to do as a nation.

 Remember Glen Beck screaming on CNN: 'Obama's gonna take your guns!!" ~ which resulted in a young man being so fearful and angry (a deadly combination) that he gathered all his semi-automatic weapons and aimed them at the front door and killed the police officers who entered the home at his mother's behest? '

 In China a man took a knife and injured 20 school children. "Injured" is the operative word. The children are still alive. But in America, we have 20 dead children. Remember the Timeline of the insurrection -- hundreds of right wing killings based on the NRA promoting FEAR of liberals taking your gun rights away? In the Constitution, our forefathers NEVER wrote the Second Amendment thinking we would ever need semiautomatic weapons in our homes. Any person with a mental disorder, an anger issue -- or even momentary angerm or a bad mood, or suicidal thought -- can pick up a gun and make a deadly mistake. Why on earth would we, a so-called 'Christian nation" go against everything the Great Peacemaker stated in the Bible? Why would anyone promote ownership of military assault rifles? What a sick nation we are But LOVE will heal us. Don't be alone. What has happened in a strange way, is Divine Providence trying desperately to get our attention. Whethe you believe in a deity or simply "God as Love, which is what I believe -- then we must realize that our higher selves (where the Bible says the Kingdom is, "within us' -- our higher selves are screaming out in pain and desperation; we need to comde together and discuss this without being bullied by fearmongers like the NRA. I am sick and tired of knowing the truth, knowing the Christ Truth, and being called a communist or socialist for wanting peace and love to reign.

You don't find it a bit eerie that Sandy Hook and Superstorm Sandy share a common name? One may have had a hand in turning the tide for Obama's election win because it makes sense that disaster victims receive government help via FEMA funding. Who else is going to step in out of the philanthropy of their heart (aside from the American people?  Red Cross donations, which we all contribute to I'm sure, can't possibly cover all the losses in a major disaster like Hurricane Katrina or Supertorm Sandy.)  This is where Federal Emergency Aid has to come through.  

What a bizarre time to be greedy. And Obama's desire to help disaster victims with federal aid (FEMA) helped him win the election. It was common sense. It also seemed to be providence moving earth and sky. Then with Sandy Hook -- a horrifying sacrifice of lambs in displaying the most innocent victims of gun violence in order to wake us up! How can anyone in Congress -- Democrat or Republican -- vote against their conscience? How can anyone vote against common sense gun control? How can anyone vote against universal background checks and a limit on military assault weapon sales?

Lydia Cornell: HAUNTING "CLOUDS" ~ A TEEN SAYS GOODBYE ~ (BLESS Y...

Lydia Cornell: HAUNTING "CLOUDS" ~ A TEEN SAYS GOODBYE ~ (BLESS Y...: PLEASE listen to this AMAZING, beautiful song written by 17-year-old Zach Sobiech who suffers from bone cancer and is facing his last Chri...

Sobiech embraced music as a way of bidding farewell to his friends and family. The resulting song, titled "Clouds," is an inspirational and courageous message of hope in the face of a harrowing future. You can hear Sobiech's "Clouds" and learn more about his story on YouTube http://youtu.be/sDC97j6lfyc 

HAUNTING "CLOUDS" ~ A TEEN SAYS GOODBYE ~ (BLESS YOU ZACH SOBIECH

PLEASE listen to this AMAZING, beautiful song written by 17-year-old Zach Sobiech who suffers from bone cancer and is facing his last Christmas. Let's give him a million hits on Youtube to help children with bone cancer.

GOD BLESS YOU ZACH, Please stay. You are a shining light. We need you here. Let's make sure this kid sticks around. Don't give up before the miracle

Love you
xoxoxo

After battling bone cancer for three years, Minnesota teenager Zach Sobiech was told this past May that the disease had spread and that there were no longer any effective treatments available. In response to this disheartening diagnosis, Sobiech embraced music as a way of bidding farewell to his friends and family. The resulting song, titled "Clouds," is an inspirational and courageous message of hope in the face of a harrowing future. You can hear Sobiech's "Clouds" and learn more about his story on YouTube http://youtu.be/sDC97j6lfyc ___________________________________________________ And then there's THIS song "TAKE A WALK" is the saddest, most haunting song I've heard in years. This song is so sad, so haunting. It describes what's wrong with the American Dream, and with America. It reminds me of "Death of a Salesman" which I saw when I was little. (Lee J. Cobb killed!) I love this song. So profound. Wow. Worf, Volt, Moo, FF Mike, Clif and Will Tell me what you think the lyrics mean "This song...floored...me. Haunted, almost. There's lots of pop sh*t out there but this one rings true in unsettling ways, and if you let your imagination drive for a few blocks...it'll probably seem just as 'real' as anything you'll find out there on any street in America" Read more at http://www.songmeanings.net/songs/view/3530822107859431339/#dBzxBqxmPE8ucR9j.99