METAPHYSICS: THE LAW OF LIFE

Anonymous left a comment saying that all was well with my marriage, and at home. Anonymous: I thank you for reminding me of the Law of Life. That good is the only reality. You must be a metaphysician (which is the way of Christ) -- seeing reality as the opposite of the limited, negative mortal view.

You are correct and this is how I should be seeing my formerly "gloomy" situation — for I am a student of metaphysics. There are no problems, only challenges that show me what needs to be healed. I am seeing the opposite of love in our arguments, and these are all fear-based concerns. Fear of death, loss, abandonment... fear of being out of control, of not having enough, of losing what we have, of not getting what we want. All this fear makes us live in the future or the past, but never in the present reality — where everything is fine. Now, this actual very moment is all there really is. There is no guarantee we'll be here tomorrow.  The Haitian earthquake, and that car accident proved to me that life can be over in an instant.  My precious brother's death showed me how fragile and temporal life is.  And all that remains are the good memories. Only love and goodness are real.

There is lovely teacher/angel sleeping on our couch and my teenagers do use the "F" word. But they are using it less and less, the higher I hold them up.

SPIRITUAL OLYMPICS: CHARITY BEGINS AT HOME

 The past few months have been the hardest — harder than getting sober 15 years ago. My family seems to be disconnected, and I have been unable to communicate with the people I live with, or anyone around me (only those in recovery, who seem to be on a deeper level.) Everyone else thinks I'm attacking them when I simply ask a question or speak to them. I feel I'm from another planet. It is so hard having to take care of everyone's moods and moodswings.  Can't live this way anymore.

"Put down the microscope and pick up the mirror," is one of the best sayings in Alanon. "Detach with love and SHUT YOUR MOUTH," are other ones. In recovery/12-step programs we learn to detach with love from other people's abuse, garbage and accusations. We learn to stop controlling others and stop nagging, whining, worrying, begging and complaining.  Each person has his/her own higher power. The only thing we can control is our own attitude.  I don't have to respond the same old way. I don't have to react to the crazy things they say, or engage in tit-for-tat arguments.  "Say it once, be agreeable and walk away."  If someone doesn't get me, or see that I have good intentions, no matter how garbled, or messy it comes out... or if they are abusive to me, I can quietly leave the room.

The most important thing is to be grounded and strong for the children living in this house. I need to not panic or be frantic when no one is doing homework, or when teenagers are shouting the "F" word at me. Teenagers are not nice people, but I can choose to leave the room and not tolerate assholishness.

Today on the I-10, a car in the very next lane in on-coming traffic flipped over two times and it's hood flew off onto our lane. It seemed to rise up and fly over the top of our car, with metal debris flying all over the place.  It was like watching a movie. I looked back and was astonished that the car didn't hit anyone else. My husband was shell-shocked; he was sure the driver and passengers had been killed.

We are working with Trish Steele and http://www.SafePassageHome.org — the organization that saves abused women's live and gives them extreme life makeovers.

God Bless everyone. Hang in there and FOCUS ON THE GOOD. When I turn my thoughts to love and good, the right actions become apparent. The main idea is to get selfishness out of the way and just ask "How can I be of love and service to those around me?" Charity begins at home.

Another Bush Lie

George W. Bush rescued the economy from collapse, according to Karen Hughes. Bush's former campaign director attacked President Barack Obama on NBC Sunday, defending the record of her former boss on the economy.

Speaking about Obama's successes, journalist Mark Halperin praised the current president's handling of the economy. "He's done, I think, an extraordinary job running the government under difficult circumstances. He managed the economic crisis, kept the world from going into depression," said Halperin.

But Hughes quickly took objection to Halperin's assessment. "I have to disagree with you, Mark, about rescuing the economy," she said. "I think that happened before President Bush left office when they took the action that they did on TARP and the banks have now repaid much of that money but that's what stabilized the economy and prevented the collapse of the financial system."

At a time when at least 140 banks failed just within weeks of Bush leaving the White House, record deficits due to excessive wars and tax breaks for the wealthy, and run away corruption from Wall Street and Corporate America; now Bush's friends claim he saved the economy.

Do the millions of unemployed Americans feel Bush saved the economy? Do the millions who have faced or are about to face foreclosure feel Bush saved their homes? Do those victims from Katrina, who were abandoned by Bush and left with nothing think Bush saved the economy?

Bush has been hiding in the rag weeds of Texas while millions upon millions are suffering at the despicable policies of George W Bush. Bush didn't save the economy, he turned it into Hell on Earth!

SAFE PASSAGE DOMESTIC ABUSE AND KISS BACKSTAGE LOS ANGELES 2009

Facebook live webcast: Hubby rolled into town and took us all to the KISS concert, where I ran into Paul Stanley in the hallway doing the Elvis walk to the stage. Facebook was filming the first live webcast of a rock concert. Paul and I used to date in the 80's and he's a wonderful guy, really sweet and solid. Gene Simmons is a wunderkind: brilliant and amazing at turning everything he touches to gold.

Below are photos of Gene Simmons, Shannon Tweed, Nick Simmons, my beautiful friend Suzan Hughes (Herbalife co-founder, former wife of Mark Hughes and mother of Alex Hughes); Chip Winnans, Paul hubby.

IN HONOR OF PAT TILLMAN, McCHRYSTAL SHOULD BE COURT-MARTIALED: A GOOD COP'S PERSPECTIVE

THE HONOR CODE by Mike Graham

When I was in Officer Training School back in the sixties, the very first thing we cadets were taught was the Honor Code. It was simplicity itself, and it was drummed into our heads daily:

"I will not lie, cheat or steal, nor tolerate among us those who do."

Stanley McChrystal is a West Point graduate whose own father was a General Officer and whose brother was an Army chaplain (Assemblies of God variety), Yet McChrystal seems somehow not to have learned the Honor Code. What were they teaching up there on the Hudson in the early seventies?

McChrystal is a war-lover who did an end-run around his Commander-in-Chief with the adoring press to get what he wanted in Afghanistan. For that he should have been court-martialed for insubordination. Instead, it seems to have worked. According to McClatchy News today, Obama is about to give him 34,000 more warm bodies.

Here is a little reminder of McChrystal's behavior in the Pat Tillman matter: Please tell me how it squares with the Honor Code::



Then there's this little issue:



PIty the soldiers and Marines in this new surge.

Finally, take a look at last week's Bill Moyers Journal, which he described as the most important show he ever did. It's about the decision-making by LBJ that escalated that war in Vietnam. Those who do not learn from history...:

BREAKING THE LAW

WITH EVERY LIE, THEY BREAK THE LAW, as well as the moral code and the laws of nature. MICHELLE BACHMAN, MARK LEVIN, SARAH PALIN, GLEN BECK, RUSH LIMBAUGH, SEAN HANNITY, DICK CHENEY, KARL ROVE, et al

.... America has broken the laws of nature: choosing to spend our treasure on WAR and DEATH instead of HEALTH CARE and LIFE. Focusing on the fetal tissue rather than already living, breathing citizens who need food, heat and water and health care. This is an abomination that is being punished by reality.

THE COST OF WAR vs THE COST OF HEALTH CARE

By their fruits you know them: trillion dollar war resulting in destruction and death. Collapsed economy as a result of greed and elitism and lies.

America is suffering from breaking the laws of nature. Cheney and Bush lied us into a war based on oil, greed and false motives. The lie is always the beginning of breaking the moral law, the law of good. So-called "Christians" of the right wing actually think God cares about fetal tissue and punishing gay people for daring to be gay. But God only cares about how we treat each other. They are filled with hate and arrogance, just like the pharisees of Christ's time. They are crucifying Love, and Christ all over again.

The killings, the corruption, the stealing, the continuing lies about free health care for every citizen -- calling free health care and free help "death panels" ??? and Dachau concentration camps and the principle of good: treat each human being as you want to be treated, even if he's poor, or gay or addicted or female or Black or Latino or Muslim.

First let me say this: I do not believe in a devil or in an anthropomorphic "God" - a man-like God sitting in the sky. I believe in the law of Love, the power of good which is the Christ Truth within each of us. This has nothing to do with religion. All religion is man-made. Jesus himself did not like religion or the religious leaders, the Pharisees. He called them hypocrites. The Kingdom is within us. This is the law of the universe. What you give out, you receive back.

Our nation is suffering from breaking the law of love. Michelle Bachman is the consummate liar. And she is the opposite of love.

God in this sense, as LOVE, is actually scientific. In other words, healing happens when we are loving. It is proven on a biochemical level. You can measure your serenity or agitation based on the thoughts you think. Monks who meditate on love each day, and send loving thoughts out to the suffering world, have brains that healthier, with few if any scars caused by stress, fear and worry.

Metaphorically, the serpent, the liar, the devil is always the ACCUSER. The one with the loudest, most aggressive voice. The one who shouts down all good deeds. The one who covers a bad motive with a good motive. The one who takes from the poor to give to the rich. The meek shall inherit the earth.

We are supposed to comfort the afflicted and afflict the comfortable. But America has lost it's way. We have broken the laws of nature, the principle of the universe: the Golden Rule, the Law of Love. We have followed the serpent: The one who comforts the comfortable and dismisses the afflicted.

There is no such thing as a "modern" Christian. This person is not a Christian, if you mean a politically vocal evangelical American fundamentalist.

This is the anti-christ.

Judgmental "Christian" Fundamentalists who go by the old Testament, judge others, cast stones, collect guns, love war, believe and speak lies (tea-baggers, birthers, Glen Beck, Michelle Bachman, abortion doctor murderers, gay-haters; Kennedy haters who never forgive humbly redeemed souls their mistakes or crimes) all of whom ignore Christ's teachings completely, leaving the love and forgiveness out of their evangelism, are the exact opposite of Christ.

By their fruits you shall know them. America's fruits: suicidal soldiers, choosing to spend our treasure on WAR AND DEATH instead of HEALTH CARE AND LIFE. Focusing on the fetal tissue rather than breathing living citizens who need heat and water and health care. This is an abomination that will be punished by reality.

By their fruits you shall know them: trillion dollar war costs resulting in destruction and death. Collapsed economy as a result of greed and elitism and lies.

America is suffering from breaking the laws of nature and the principle of good: treat each human being as you want to be treated, even if he's poor, or gay or addicted or female or Black or Latino or Muslim.

After all, Hitler was white and "Christian." Did race matter then?



MAJOR NIDAL MALIK HASAN FORT HOOD SUSPECT STILL ALIVE

Please leave comments here and let us know what you think is going on, what the most likely scenario is. Is Hasan a member of a domestic sleeper cell, a lifelong terrorist in training, who was groomed to inflitrate the U.S. military and become one of us, in order to stage a mass killing? Or is he a mentally unstable doctor who turned against his fellow soldiers and patients? What motivated him?

General Details Chaotic Scene After Deadly Shooting At Military Base... Suspect In Custody, In Stable Condition... Allegedly Sympathized With Suicide Bombers In Writings

FORT HOOD, Texas — An Army psychiatrist set to be shipped overseas opened fire at the Fort Hood Army post Thursday, authorites said, a rampage that killed 12 people and left 31 wounded in the worst mass shooting ever at a military base in the United States.

The gunman, first said to have been killed, was wounded but alive and in stable condition under military guard, said Lt. Gen. Bob Cone at Fort Hood. "I would say his death is not imminent," Cone said. Col. Ben Danner said the suspect was shot at least four times.

The man was identified as Maj. Nidal Malik Hasan, a 39-year-old, eight-year veteran from Virginia.
President Barack Obama called the shooting at the Soldier Readiness Center, where soldiers who are about to be deployed or who are returning undergo medical screening, "a horrific outburst of violence."

"It's difficult enough when we lose these brave Americans in battles overseas," the commander in chief said. "It is horrifying that they should come under fire at an Army base on American soil."


Read more at: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/11/05/nidal-malik-hasan-fort-ho_n_347899.html&cp

HOW TO FIND JOY IN THE MIDST OF TRAGEDY

11/11 HAPPY ANNIVERSARY SWEETHEART!

We'll always have St. Barth's!

2008 St. Barth

Here is Lydia in front of the Gene Simmon's Axe Bass Guitar Bus!

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My friend (not pictured here) whom Cristina and I rescued from a extremely violent domestic abuse situation, is staying with me and just beginning to heal and have hope. In years, no one has had the time to listen to her story or help her. No one has believed her -- that a person so sweet could have everything taken from her for no reason at all. She is prone to giggle at the slightest courtesy. She has been through so much pain and violence, that when someone opens a door for her at the grocery store — stops to actually help her cross the street, figure out a parking ticket or actually talk to her and listen — she is overjoyed. Talk about appreciating life. When everything is taken from you, you can really be grateful for the little things.

ONE DAY AT A TIME IN ALANON... Some thoughts from my friend Mary in Shanghai:

After being sober for a while I see that no situation lasts forever. I used to have this horrible sense of urgency around my problems that I had to impulsively just do "something" to fix it all immediately or I would be so uncomfortable in my own skin, anxious and worried and burdened. So coming from this anxiety I often acted wrongly or suffered needlessly. I thought if I didn't do something about it right now it would be here for all time. Now I know that everything passes eventually.

Today, I can ask myself "What can I do about this right here, right now?" This question helps me to identify my responsibilities today surrounding this more realistically and shows me what part of the situation is beyond my control today. What I cannot do today I turn over. I remember I am in the footwork business, God is in the results business.

Reasoning things out with my sponsor or someone from the fellowship can help me to seperate todays problems with those of the past and the future. I will trust my Higher Power with tomorrow.
Then I do what I can and "turn over" the rest. In the 12-step program we turn our burdens, worries and fears over to our higher power.

"Today is only a small manageable segment of time in which my difficulties need not overwhelm me. This lifts from our hearts and minds the heavy weight of both past and future".

THE VOICE IN THE TREES... an essay on being a homeless woman. Back by popular demand... coming soon.

Rather than wanting to hold to the past longer, and slow things down, and stop the aging process -- just revel in the power of now! You can't stop time, and you won't stop the recycling process that is taking place upon this planet, nor would you want to -- but you do not have to suffer the moving through time. Every moment can be more wonderful than the moment before. - Abraham

Arianna Huffington: Why It's Wrong When Wrongdoers Are Allowed to Admit No Wrongdoing

Last week, JP Morgan agreed to a $722 million settlement with the SEC stemming from a risky derivatives deal that drove Alabama's most populous county to the brink of bankruptcy. As part of the settlement, JPMorgan neither admitted nor denied wrongdoing -- despite ample evidence that it had engaged in plenty of wrongdoing. This is what passes for justice on Wall Street: regulators give a company a ding to its bottom line, and are ready to quickly forget the whole thing and allow the company to move on to the next lucrative money-printing scheme. When corporate perpetrators don't have to admit they did anything wrong, it's as if the crime never happened. Which, of course, makes it much more likely that it will happen again.

SUMMER IN MALIBU COLONY WITH THE BEAUTIFUL SUZAN HUGHES!

Top photo: Suzan, bottom photo: Lydia

BARBADOS: Lydia, Cheryl Hines, Sharon Case