Dressing Like a Hooker: A Woman's Worth
I’m not spiritually evolved enough to stop dressing like a hooker, but at least I tried a turtleneck the other day. You can’t get a job in Hollywood without ‘Lap dancer’ on your resume, and I’m referring to the writers not the actors. Wearing death-defying cleavage is supposed to make us more employable or marriageable. And since the only valuable women in America are teenage-wombless-buttless-mutants (TWBMs), I can’t just quit cold turkey. So I’m in withdrawal from cleavage. (more below....)
If a certain rock star and I hadn't dumped each other back in the 90s, I would have
lived on his private island in Fiji and life would be too perfect. But since pain is the touchstone of all spiritual progress, I ended up raising three boys and two dogs, including my husband, who were all going through puberty at the same time.
But I had a theory back then: honestly believed that you were supposed to be married to the person who annoyed you the most, since the most spiritual growth happens with your enemies. That’s why the Arabs and Israelis are next door to each other. They just don’t get it
yet.
Whenever I’ve had regrets about mistakes I’ve made in life, I realize that my son and stepson are my markers. Having the privilege of raising these children is direct evidence that there really are no mistakes. If I hadn't sold my house at the ‘wrong’ time, I would never have found the apartment where I walked into party and met the future father of my child. I can honestly say I wouldn’t trade my downfall, horrific crash and burn, or the meandering road to wholeness for anything.
On my excruciating Big Sur divorce trip, in which I sobbed love songs into a tape recorder and stopped at every crashing surf vista point — I stayed alone at The Madonna Inn — a twinky fairyland honeymoon resort — and asked the host, "Isn't it illegal to stay here alone, after a marriage has ended?" She said "Just the opposite: it's good luck. In fact you will meet someone new and get married here!"
(FYI: I stayed in the Krazy Daisy Room, the only room they had left at 10 PM when I rolled into town. It'a an exact replica of my childhood room. I turned on the TV and the newscaster said my name "Lydia" referring to the weather girl. (I played a weather girl on Too Close for Comfort.) Coinkydink? Then I wandered down to the pink leather dining room, where Frank Sinatra was singing a song called "Too Close for Comfort!"
I don't believe in an anthropomorphic version of God — but I call these 'godshots" (TM)
More to come....
This is wonderful! I met two spectacularly creative young women, both artists, innovators and great thinkers: Christy Heyob and Kerstin Larissa Hovland. Christy is doing amazing things combining art with healing. Kerstin is an innovative artist with a background in computer engineering, who integrates art, performance and technology with music and light. Both of these women are on the cutting edge, starting new companies. Found this on Christy's blog. Please watch:
We all get a little scared sometimes. Scared of graduating school without a plan; scared of monsters. One six year old has a remedy: think of something else until the “nervous has gone out of you.” Think of juice, pizza, and a piano shaped chocolate chip cookie. In other words, he says, “when the scared feeling comes into you, the scared is scared of things you like.” This is all advice told to filmmaker Bianca Giaever, who asked one very clever child to tell her a story…about anything…so that she could turn it into a movie.The story she heard was as brilliant as the film she created to go along with the narrative. Giaever explains on her Vimeo, “I asked a six year old what my movie should be about, and this is what he told me.” Watching the finished product leaves you wondering what other genius we’d learn of if children’s voices were heard a little bit more often. And the good news is that given the internet success her short has already had, Giaever probably doesn’t need to be scared about graduating school anymore. From Christy Heyob's site.
My favorite music right now: The Lumineers (Hey Ho); Mumford and Sons; The White Stripes "Seven Nation Army; Atlas Genius, Passion Pit, Cage the Elephant, and so many more. Here is White Stripes:
MY FAVORITE SHOW: ARRESTED DEVELOPMENT!
I haven't seen Psych but then again I don't get regular TV anymore.
ReplyDeleteAs for the turtleneck, I think that's a smart move. Everyone does the cleavage thing, but when you've got it, you don't need to flaunt it.
There's nothing like a good rack in a sweater. Drives men wild. More than exposed cleavage ever would. There's something about a woman in a nice white or pink sweater that can make you crazy.
(FYI: I stayed in the Krazy Daisy Room, the only room they had left at 10 PM when I rolled into town. It'a an exact replica of my childhood room. I turned on the TV and the newscaster said my name "Lydia" referring to the weather girl. (I played a weather girl on Too Close for Comfort.) Coinkydink? Then I wandered down to the pink leather dining room, where Frank Sinatra was singing a song called "Too Close for Comfort!"
ReplyDeleteUsually I'd say yes. Coinkydink but cool ones.
But you got me at the "Frank Sinatra" singing TCFC.
That's kinda freaky.
ReplyDeletePerhaps the universe is telling you a new show is coming your way? One where you're like the neighborhood mom, counseling local kids and fending off teenage cougar hunters?
You know when the trolls give you crap about stuff, like drinking for example and your affiliation to AA, just remember. Many stars like you from our era, are gone now because they did NOT make the choices you made.
ReplyDeleteYou're a lot like Farah Fawcett. You were both two blond bombshells during the same period. Yet she's gone, and you're here. She kept with the booze and stuff. You walked away from it.
Look at Whitney Houston. Another one who couldn't make the choice you made to walk away from that stuff. And now she's gone, and you're here.
You've got a story to tell, and the fact that you walked away from booze and such during the Hollywood heydays, a decision that has paid off in spades.
You're here. The ones who couldn't walk away from it, are gone.
When you're counseling those kids in your neighborhood on the dangers of drugs and booze, you might point out how its taken the lives of so many in Hollywood both young and old.
ReplyDeleteLook at Heath Ledger, cut down in his prime. He was at the pinnacle of his career. And it all ended for him thanks to drugs, and booze.
Look at Chris Farley, John Belushi...Marilyn Monroe, Anna Nicole Smith,... all cut down in their prime, at the peaks of their careers. Over drugs, and booze.
And if you're lucky enough to survive for a while, it seems it still catches up with them. Farrah Fawcett, still with a long life in front of her, gone. Because she couldn't stay away from the stuff.
And Whitney Houston, like Farrah, working on reviving her career, just starting to come back, and then gone. Just like that.
I was so sad to see Whitney go. She was so great. Yet those drugs and booze took her voice, then her life.
So while some might think nothing of your advocating AA in here, the fact is what you're selling is the truth. And the fact is what you DID, by walking away from it, was a hard thing to do, yet its the path to life.
And look at you now. Decades later, still healthy, beautiful and happy.
You made a choice that is so difficult for so many, and the reason for that is they don't always see the value in it.
But a quick look at your life, when contrasted to Farrah, or Whitney, or Marilyn shows just how viable and powerful that decision you made was. And how important things like AA and other programs can be in helping people not only walk away, but keep away from addiction to those things which take so much away from so many.
Anyway not meaning to get on a stump here, but when you talked about how you walked into a replica of your childhood room and the newscaster said "Lydia" to the weathergirl, and Sinatra singing "TCFC", I thought about what that might have meant.
And I thought it sounded to me like perhaps God, the universe, etc is saying, "you've come so far, and you're still here. Well done".
That's what I thought when you said that.
That Lucille Bluth is one hot cougar herself. I've always thought she was fine.
ReplyDeleteIts odd. I was just talking about how booze and drugs have taken the lives of celebrities over the years, and it looks like, sadly, there's one more to add to the list as of 4:00 PM this afternoon.
ReplyDeleteIts being reported that Country Music singer Mindy McCready has just taken her own life.
At 4:00 PM today she took a pistol she had, shot her dog dead, then shot herself.
This comes just a few months after her husband killed himself.
Mindy was undergoing court ordered treatment but was abusing drugs and alcohol, and this led to her death, as it did her husbands, who also abused drugs and booze.
ReplyDeleteSo again, drugs and booze (and guns) take another precious life, and for what?
She had a couple of 6 year old kids and a NINE MONTH old baby. Now she's gone, they're here with a mother and father who both committed suicide.
This sort of thing just breaks ones heart. The pain she must have been going through to do this must have been horrible. To kill her dog, that would take incredible grief alone, then turn the gun on herself.
ReplyDeleteSo yes, I'm not sure how you took what I said about alcohol and your strength Lydia in walking away from it like you did back in the 80s but its true. You're here, because you're strong and had the courage to make the right choice.
So many unfortunately aren't, and don't.
Global warming...yes back into the 50's in mid-February
ReplyDeleteRussia getting hit by asteroid...Global warming, and the multitudes of problems that exist worldwide, God Knows what's next.
ReplyDeleteAs Worfy once said, "Heavens to Betsy"
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ReplyDeleteEarth formed approximately 4.54 billion years ago, and life appeared on its surface within one billion years.[23] Earth's biosphere then significantly altered the atmospheric and other basic physical conditions, which enabled the proliferation of organisms as well as the formation of the ozone layer, which together with Earth's magnetic field blocked harmful solar radiation, and permitted formerly ocean-confined life to move safely to land.[24] The physical properties of the Earth, as well as its geological history and orbit, have allowed life to persist. Estimates on how much longer the planet will be able to continue to support life range from 500 million years (myr), to as long as 2.3 billion years (byr).[25][26][27]
When the planet finally takes its final curtain call, 2.3 billion years from now, it will say Thank Godalmighty... it's over.
ReplyDeleteIt's better to put your faith in God, than in man.
ReplyDeleteMan can bullshit you six days to Sunday, but God Himself cannot deceive nor be deceived.
1. I've never said "Heaven's to Betsy" at any time in my life.
ReplyDelete2. Putting your faith in God's fine. Problem is, guys like you let men deceive you into believing they know what God wants.
They don't.
And its been in the 40's and 50's all year so far....we haven't had a winter yet. And springs almost here.
ReplyDeleteBut its not global warming, we know its not.
Because Clippy, Volty and Johnny tell us its not.
We all know the "nra" won't fight to keep guns from criminals,
ReplyDeleteI wonder how to keep guns from stupid people like this total arse;
Alabama man shoots himself, 6-year-old daughter while cleaning gun
BTW, it is nice to see that Mississippi is finally willing to formally join the rest of the country in declaring slavery wrong.
ReplyDeleteOnly took about 150 years for them to do it.
The teatards don't like KKKarl anymore, their pic, not mine.
ReplyDeleteI saw that. So now they think Rove's a Nazi?
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So how far to the out fringe of the outer outer outer limits of right wing fringe wingnuts...does that place the Tea Party?
This far?
ReplyDeleteNew Tea Party Infomercial
Is the tea party still in existence?
ReplyDeleteYes, but only every second Tuesday of the month.
ReplyDeleteActually for here, the teatards only exist, when dummytron comes outa his closet for his drive by posting, or mook mook decides to put down the Cheetos and carry dummytron's water again.
ReplyDeleteHi there! I understand this is somewhat off-topic but I needed to ask.
ReplyDeleteDoes building a well-established blog like yours take a large amount of work?
I'm brand new to writing a blog however I do write in my diary daily. I'd like to start a
blog so I will be able to share my personal experience and thoughts online.
Please let me know if you have any kind of ideas or tips for brand new aspiring bloggers.
Thankyou!
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Ahhh .... another right wing former senator admits he is nothing but human excrement;
ReplyDeletePete Domenici Acknowledges Son From Extramarital Affair 30 Years Ago
He made his son grow up for the first 30 years with out knowing the boys father for his and the child's mother's political careers?
They ain't good parents if that is their reasoning.
Children ain't window dressing to hide when politically inconvenient.
Just another hypocritical right wing asshole in the GOper party of liars and scammers.
Worst part both the mother and father decided to lie to the child deny him a father for their own political careers.
ReplyDeleteRight wing republiscum family values in action there folks.
Boy, I sure am glad the republicans keep lecturing us on family values, because if we had to go on what they did instead of what they said, we'd never get the message.
ReplyDeleteThis is the party who has been blocking for years others from getting married, ...because they claim it would "destroy the sanctity of marriage".
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go figger...
ReplyDelete...perhaps their problem is an unfamiliarity with the definition of the word "sanctity"?
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or honesty ..........................
ReplyDeleteYou know I saw "Argo" this week, and I was just thinking about all the Anti American comments these right wing American bashing pieces of shit trolls like voltron have been saying about Carter and the US under him in abandoning the hostages.
ReplyDeleteCanada was given credit for getting the 6 Americans out who were in hiding, but turns out now that its been declassified, (actually back in 1997 but not a well known story to be sure) it was US, not them. (although brave Canada did hide the Americans for months risking the lives of several Canadians living in the Embassy)
The CIA under Carter got them out, and because the mission was classified, Carter let Canada take the credit for the operation and Carter sat there silently letting himself be bashed, along with the CIA by all these good for nothing, DO NOTHING lazy worthless anti American pieces of garbage.
Carter could have stepped up and taken credit, declassifying it to help win reelection, yet like a silent soldier he stood behind the men and women who did the work, and took it on the chin for the sake of the country and the men and women risking their lives in the CIA.
So next time that piece of shit voltron, or any of the other maggots bash Carter and talk about how he did nothing and bungled that event, remember.
ALL the hostages were eventually freed, and this covert operation that freed 6 Americans in hiding took place under his leadership and he never once took credit or uttered a peep about it.
The most anti American people in this country right now, ...as dangerous to it as any terrorist group, is the Tea Party.
I'm so sick of these maggots, I could puke.
ReplyDeleteYou gotta love the Canadians though. You know what Canada called the 6?
ReplyDeleteRefugees? Nope.
Hostages? Nope?
Escapees? Nope.
They called them "guests". lol
:D
Oh bland Canada...long may you stand.
After being turned away by the Australian and British Embassy's, they called John Shear, the Consul General who was staying at the Canadian Embassy with his wife and told them their plight, Shear told them and I quote, "sure, come on over".
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holy crap....lol
Stupid republicans want us to keep our current health care system.
ReplyDeleteYet MOST bankruptcies in this country occur due to medical bills.
But here's a startling fact most inbred Tea Baggers don't want you to know.
Almost 70 PERCENT of all health care related bankruptcies, were from patients who HAD PAID COMMERCIAL HEALTH CARE.
Aren't you tired of the stupid, lying republican pieces of trash?
I know I am.
Tell the Tea Party to take a hike, get a job, and quit tearing down our country.
ReplyDeleteHuntsman backs gay marriage, calls for conservatives to push issue
ReplyDeleteSALT LAKE CITY — Former GOP presidential candidate and Utah Gov. Jon Huntsman Jr. announced in a magazine article he supports gay marriage and called for conservatives to take the lead on the issue.
"My marriage has been the greatest joy of my life," Huntsman wrote in an article dated Thursday in The American Conservative. "There is nothing conservative about denying other Americans the ability to forge the same relationship with the person they love."
Huntsman, who dropped out of last year's presidential race after a disappointing showing in the New Hampshire Republican primary, urged members of his party to push to legalize same-sex marriage in their states.
Did I tell you this guy is ahead of his time, or what?
ReplyDeleteThis is what a republican used to look like.
The mans got class, and the rest of them just got "ass".