This is how I used to act with an ex-boyfriend. I’d try to control him like a dictator, but I only pushed him away. Trying to control people never works because it’s fear-based behavior. People are never interested when you push yourselves on them. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
But I really believe in a power greater than ourselves and I know we're going to be all right. God did not give us a spirit of fear. Thankfully I have the Twelve Steps, where I learned to at least see my part in a conflict and to say I’m sorry. In the words of Stuart Smalley, “It's easier to wear slippers than to carpet the whole world.”
"No problem can be solved at the same level it was created on." – Albert Einstein
What I've discovered is that the solution to any material problem is never at the level of the problem. It is always above the problem or challenge. It is always by “letting go” and looking away from the problem, never by fighting it on its level. It is always a spiritual solution.
No human power can relieve alcoholism. More alcohol cannot cure it. Nor can therapy, psychoanalysis or dissecting the brain heal the "dis-ease" of alcoholism.
Past Notes from the War in Iraq; No military power can solve any conflict. We can’t fight fire with fire; we need to go above the problem and approach it from a diplomatic or spiritual solution. This is what Trump, Putin, and other bullies and warmongers don't understand. Fighting ones enemies never resolves anything, as the Great Peacemaker said. More military might only escalates the conflict. All great spiritual leaders know that what Christ taught creates peace: a soft answer turns away wrath. Withdraw our energy from the situation and the situation will solve itself. We must take care of our own side of the street.
We are all one race: Human. People who look different than us are not children of a lesser God; we are all children of the same God.