Monday, February 22, 2016
I said to my friend, who happens to be a psychoanalyst, "I think I'll stop worrying and analyzing my problems and see what happens."
She nearly bit my head off. She said, "Are you crazy? You have to analyze your problems or they might go away!"
For me, having a pity party is the fastest way to hell. Instead I like to look up, see that the sky isn't falling, and realize it could be worse. Then find a way to laugh at yourself. This too shall pass.
Take a deep breath and accept that this is what is happening for whatever reason, at this moment. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger and wiser. We don't have control or power over other people's screw-ups or pathology, lack of morals or unkindness. We only have control over our reactions. We can choose to think good thoughts even about our enemies, and not resist anything going on at any moment. Disease and stress (which creates biochemical pathways to disease) are created when we are in resistance to the moment: when we are wanting something that is not happening or trying to prevent something from happening, or not being in agreement with reality. Acceptance is the key to serenity.
Thoughts have substance, and we manifest those things that occupy our thoughts. "What you think about grows, so be careful, watch what you allow into your mind. We have the power to reverse our circumstances by reversing our thoughts. Surrender to the moment. Accept whatever is happening, no matter how "bad" it looks or feels. Acceptance is the key to serenity.