Sunday, February 24, 2013


THIS IS THE SOLUTION! THIS IS THE BEST ARTICLE I HAVE EVER READ on why I act the way I do. This amazing article by Mike Bundrant PSYCH CENTRAL on why we screw our lives up and sabotage great things and behave the way we do is a MUST READ!  (Meanwhile I am obsessed by the tragic death of Elisa Lam, may she rest in peace.) 

Mike Bundrant is co-founder of the iNLP Center and host of Mental Health Exposed, a Natural News Radio program.

This is an AHA moment. Transformative. Now I'm ready to stop the old behavior. Do you recognize yourself here? 

Seven Facts about the Psyche that Lead you Right into a World of Illusion | NLP Discoveries via @PsychCentral

gatewayDo you sometimes experience feelings or behaviors that you cannot explain?
Most people have an area of their life that just doesn’t add up. When you factor in all that you know, you just can’t make sense of it.
Why do you do things that are counterproductive or even harmful to your goals and desires?
These are signs and symptoms of self-deception; living in a self-created matrix of illusion.
If you can digest the following mind-bending facts about the human psyche, you may have the AHA experience of a lifetime. Or, maybe it will open a new area of exploration that has potential to explain a lot. I hope it does, because the following serves as the gateway to the matrix. See the entrance. See the exit! Here are the facts:

1. When you were born, you could not tell the difference between truth and lies

Children do not have truth/falsehood filters. Whatever parents tell children, they not only believe, but anticipate and act on. This is how Santa Claus manages to stick around.
When kids believe in Santa, they behave accordingly. They write letters to Santa, stay up at night to get a glimpse, leave out cookies on Christmas Eve, try not to be on the naughty list and so on.
We act on what we believe is true.

2. You learned many other things that were false, then you made those things pleasurable

Enter the first major, hard-to-believe glitch in the program.If you learned only helpful or harmless things as a child, you’d be set up for a lifetime of success. Sadly, you were taught many things that are false.
Here’s the mind-blower: You made these lies pleasurable. I almost hate to be the one to break this to you, but it is true. Children cannot filter out falsehood and they make perceived truth pleasurable. If you did not make truth pleasurable, then you would never act on it. When you are taught that a lie is true, thenseeking the lie becomes right and familiar. This combination of traits can turn your whole world upside down. It may be the number one human vulnerability; the key to our undoing.
On a personal level, perhaps you learned that you are not worth anyone’s time. Perhaps you discovered that there is no point in thinking for yourself. Maybe you learned that it is useless to try to succeed. Perhaps you learned that you do not fit in.
Let’s say you were taught that you weren’t worth your parents’ time. When you needed help, they were busy. When you wanted to play, they weren’t interested. When you were proud of yourself and wanted to brag, they dismissed you.

3. You now live the lies as if they were true

Modern culture encourages older children to let go of their harmless belief in Santa Claus. Most parents are sensitive enough and comfortable guiding their children through the process.
Modern culture offers no encouragement or process to let go of the harmful lies you were told. When you think about it, people might be better off believing in Santa for life than believing they are worthless as a person for life. Still, there is no rite of passage, no method and virtually no mention that young adults should examine beliefs related to their upbringing.
Worse, extraordinarily few people exist on this planet who know how to help others identify and let go of the lies they are living.
So, as an adult, you are now living the lie that you are worthless. You treat yourself the way your parents treated you. You don’t take care of yourself, respect yourself or give yourself the time and sacrifice necessary to create the life you want.
You act on the lie. You don’t care what you eat or what goes into your body. You don’t make time for yourself. You find it hard to accept compliments. You don’t keep commitments to yourself. You are uncomfortable around people with high self-esteem, etc…
Worse, you find a strange, unexplainable pleasure or personal familiarity in treating yourself this way. This only adds shame to the mix.

4. The lies you live are threatening, painful and embarrassing

Here’s why letting go of lies is so difficult. If you are living a lie, you probably don’t want to admit it. The lie you are living isn’t pretty. Who wants to face the ugliness and pain at the core of their being?
No one wants to appear weak or worthless. Everyone is putting their best foot forward and burying the unmentionables. Your ego does not want to see the truth!

5. So, you hide the lies from yourself (others can see your lies plainly)

Your campaign to hide the painful lie-you-believe-is-true is wholesale. You hide the lie by setting out to prove your worth to the world, as if you could deny the lie by worldly success. You ignore your feelings. You look down on “weak” or “unimportant” people.
You avoid intimacy, unconsciously fearing that if someone were to get to know you, they’d disapprove. If someone suggests in any way that you might be mistaken or to blame for something, you get defensive. You avoid at all costs any hint that you might be less than you portray yourself.
The bitter irony is that all this is totally unnecessary. You are not worthless. You never were. You only believed the lie and now act upon it regularly, at times getting a strange satisfaction from it.

6. Now you are stuck doing things you hate (sort of) for reasons you do not understand

All this leads to an incredible bind. You are strangely attracted to being less than – it is familiar territory for you. All the ways you act upon this belief are troubling, but the denial is so thick that you don’t know where to begin to figure it all out.
You set goals that would improve your life, then sabotage those goals because you lean heavily toward that attachment to being less than. You know you should not eat junk, smoke junk, drink junk, do junk, treat yourself like junk, but you do so anyway. You understand the consequences of such behaviors, but do not seem to care. In fact, you are oddly invested in bringing more junk upon yourself.

7. You resist solutions to your problem

When real solutions present themselves, you reject them. When people try to help, you become offended and pretend you have no problem. You even judge others who have obvious problems to move attention away from your own (Reality TV is a good vehicle for this).
It is entirely possible for you to stare real solutions in the face, admit they are solutions, then proceed to do the opposite and resent anyone who calls you on your irresponsible behavior.
You live the lie, take pleasure in the lie, fear solutions to the lie, don’t know who you would be without the lie and keep all this from yourself with amazing agility.

Perfect candidates for scams of all kinds

Scammers of all kinds love to prey upon our struggle by offering pretended solutions that do not require us to dig deep. Take a pill. You’ll feel better. Kick the can down the road. Buy this or that personal growth program that promises easy solutions and quick, painless fixes. Anything to avoid looking at ourselves deeply.
Digging deep is the only solution, however. Do not be afraid to do it. The only dark secrets lurking in your psyche will transform into enlightenment the moment you discover them.

Watch the free video The AHA! Process: An End to Self-Sabotage and discover the lost keys to personal transformation and emotional well-being that have been suppressed by mainstream mental health for decades. 

The information in this video has been called the missing link in mental health and personal development. In a world full of shallow, quick-fix techniques, second rate psychology and pharmaceutical takeovers, real solutions have become nearly impossible to find. This presentation will turn your world upside down. 

Mike Bundrant is co-founder of the iNLP Center and host of Mental Health Exposed, a Natural News Radio program. 

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